I hate to be the one to break it to you but if you’re still single and don’t want to be there is really only one reason why. Now, you might need to sit down for this one. Are you ready? Here we go!
The number one reason is …
You just haven’t found the right one yet
OK, let that sink in for a minute.
My guess is that you were probably expecting a different answer, right? Like something that is wrong with you? Maybe you’re not pretty enough or masculine enough, not funny enough, not smart enough,
Well, that’s not actually the truth; the truth is that you just haven’t found them yet.
I know i may not have seen you in person but I’m guessing you’re pretty awesome, that there is nothing wrong with you and that you are possibly your own worst critic.
Wanna know why you haven't met the man of your dreams? Find out now!
1 Your standards are too high. It's great to have high standards. No woman should sell herself short and then be stuck in a situation she regrets. There is such a thing, however, as having standards that are too high.
What's the difference, you ask? Well, normal standards are something like this: "I want him to respect me, treat me right and be honest and decent." Too-high standards look like this: "He better drive a Lexus and have a job making six figures."
It's good to have expectations but ultimately, whether or not he's a high earner isn't going to bring you happiness or a stable relationship. Also, don't let your standards get in the way of a good guy. Sometimes, women will pass on a man, believing they can do better, only to settle with a lesser someone years later.
Always ask yourself if your standards are realistic. And more importantly, ask if your standards will nab you the man that will make you happy.
2. Negativity is your middle name. Do you need to win every argument? Are you confrontational or super defensive? Do you never give compliments, are always negative or can't be pleased? If so, this might be something to look at.
Believe it or not, there are certain personality traits that will turn men off, no matter how gorgeous a woman is. If you always walk into a relationship like nothing he does is good enough, he will not stick around. And if, when you first meet a man, you're not willing to engage him in conversation about his interests, he will also not stick around.
Don't be combative or hostile and don't let one thing he says turn you off to him completely. Open up a little more and don't stress. Men who see women as unfairly and overly negative usually head for the door.
3. You're going after the wrong guy. It happens all too often. You're able to pull what you think is a fantastic guy — good looking, charming, a guy girls women would kill for. He can get whoever he wants. And that's part of the problem.
If you're constantly seeking the guy who's going to make every woman jealous, keep in mind that this guy probably knows that he can get you and any other woman in the room. Thinking that the lotharios are the ones that want to stick around are where you're bound to get caught going after the wrong guy.
You could be in the wrong location.Sometimes, you may be in a city or town and you just don't click with the men you're surrounded by. Maybe you're in a rural town and you like city guys or maybe you're in a city but prefer a cowboy. In any case, you probably won't be able to connect if you don't have things in common.
If you think that you're not getting along with the guys in your area, seek out a different area – go to different hang outs, different scenes and explore. You may find that you're more attracted to the type that goes to a lounge than goes to a bar.
6. You don't take care of yourself. Believe it or not, men care about this. Not in the ways you think (we're really not caring what brand your shoes are) but we do care if you take care of yourself. This includes things like wearing nice clothes, doing your hair, makeup, exercising and even what you eat.
Now, you don't need to go overboard and this shouldn't be a determining factor in a relationship. But if you're wearing a sweatshirt and jeans without any makeup and your friends are doing a little something to make themselves appealing, most men's eyes are going to go for those girls first.
It's not that you aren't appealing but by the time he gets to you, he's already taken by the girl who put in a little extra effort. Also, things like staying in shape are important. A healthy body is connected to a healthy mind. Again, don't go overboard — extra fat isn't going to kill you. But making sure that you don't have five layers of fat will also help.
. 7 You're hung up on an ex. Whether you're still seeing him or still dreaming about him, the ex is getting in the way and leaving you with nothing but an empty bed. Sometimes the thoughts of an ex will keep you from investing in another man.
The ex will make you see other men as just a passing phase on the way back into the ex's arms. Other times, the men you're dating will catch wind that you're still in love with your ex. If this is the case, many men will split before they get attached and subsequently hurt when you and the ex rekindle the spark (even if it's just for the night).
8. You're being judgmental and insecure. Most men do not care to be around women who are full of judgments about people and life. It's negative, saps out the fun and motivates us to be on guard with what we say and how we act. The end result: we don't feel free when we're with you.
Hating on other women only reveals your insecurity and weakness of character. People say men are visual, and we are, but we are also discerning when it comes to character.
9. You give everything up too easily. When you're a teenager, you think the easiest way to get a man to stick around is to sleep with him. When you get a little older, you realize that isn't necessarily the best way.
If you sleep with a man the first time you meet him, there's a good chance he may not call for a second date. Why? He may feel that he has gotten everything from you that's worth getting. By not giving him more than a kiss the first night you meet him, he will be encouraged to continue the pursuit.
Also, when he finds it's that easy to be with you sexually, he'll quickly start to wonder how many other men found it to be just as easy. He will be disinclined to start dating, thinking that you may find another guy to hook up with.
11 Desperation is dripping off of you. It is an energy frequency that repels everyone, men and women alike. Desperation is the fullest expression of fear.
Get out of your head and be in the moment. Enjoy what is happening and do not attach to any outcome. Desperation is a state of mind that takes you over and drives you repeatedly to singleville.
13. You can't be by yourself. Men are turned off by the woman who always has to have company and can't be by herself. If a man is calling you and you're in the company of another man every time, he'll feel unneeded and wonder why he should even bother with someone who's always so occupied.
14. You don't actually want a relationship.Whether you admit it or not, you may actually besingle because you want to be. You may enjoy going out with girlfriends and playing the field. You may not want the attachment of a serious partner or you may just not be very good at commitment. In any case, some women who are single really just want to be single; some want to be single subconsciously.
If you're asking "why am I single" but then not returning the calls of men who are interested or if you're going out for drinks every weekend, these are behavioral signs that you really, at core, don't want to be tied down. Sometimes being single is just what you want.
Whatever is keeping you single has very little to do with anything outside of yourself. Your perceptions about men, yourself, the meaning you put into the little things, your beliefs are all most likely in need of an overhaul. We are all energetic, vibrating beings. Confidence, fun, depression, bitterness – they all vibrate at specific frequencies. What are you vibrating during most of your life?
The good news is that vibrations, perceptions and beliefs can always be changed and we're here to help you. Talk to a Relationship Coach today, and begin removing the labels you've put over your beautiful self that are clouding you.
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