Imagine trying to develop a healthy, strong relationship with someone who didn't speak the same language as you - an uphill battle, to say the least! That's why communication is so important to lasting, loving relationships
. From sharing fears and feelings to facing the challenges of military life, good communication is key to staying close and growing together. If you think you and your partner could use some help in that area, read on for tips on how - and how often - to speak to one another, how to help your partner open up and more.
Communicating well-the basics
Communicating well is one of the most important skills any couple can have. Poor communication is a frequent complaint of couples who split up and can be a source of frustration and conflict for those who stay together. To help you avoid those kinds of problems in your own relationship, work with your partner to learn and practice these basic communication techniques:
Make time to talk to each other. Try to spend some time each day talking to each other over a meal, after work or before bed. This is so important that some busy couples find it helpful to mark time to talk in their calendars. Some individuals report that just talking for as little as 15 minutes a day can help keep a relationship strong.Share your thoughts and feelings. One of the joys of being part of a couple is having someone with whom you can share your deepest thoughts and feelings. After a while, you may fall into a rut. If this happens, make an extra effort to talk about the things that matter most to you.Listen carefully.
Good communication involves not just speaking clearly but listening closely. This kind of active listening means giving each other full attention and not interrupting. When you're talking about something important, turn off the television or radio and let phone calls go to voicemail.Show that you understand what you've heard.It's important not just to listen, but also to make it clear that you've heard what the other person is telling you.
You can do this by repeating back what you've heard through phrases such as, "So what you're saying is..." or "I want to make sure I understand you correctly. You feel that..."Offer frequent praise, support, and encouragement. Studies show that couples who stay together make far more positive comments to each other than negative ones. You might try to find something to praise every day, even if you've said similar things before.
Write notes or send email or text messages.Some fun examples include leaving a note on the car seat that says, "I love you" or "Good luck with your presentation!" Send emails, text messages or "I miss you" cards when your spouse is away.Pay attention to your body language.
Communication involves a lot more than just words. Pay attention to what your posture, stance and facial expressions are conveying
Today and every other day..try hard..to always communicate with your spouse.
It helps a lot.
Do have a wonderful day ahead.
Good one..
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