HOW FRIENDS CAN RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Friends are important in our lives but if not properly managed, our friends can also ruin our relationship.
Today i want to share with youu ways you can  let your friends ruin your relationship

1. Choosing to always hang out with friends than your partner

Hanging out with friends is really important but when you prefer hanging out with friends to hanging out with your partner, then you are letting your relationship with your friends kill your relationship with your partner.

If you never forget planned hangouts with friends, but you always forget planned hangouts with your partner, then you are letting your friendship ruin your relationship.

2. Your friends don't respect your partner

You let your friends ruin your relationship when you allow them to disrespect your partner. Your friends should treat your partner with all the respect your partner deserves and you shouldn’t let your friends speak unkindly about your partner.

Your friends should protect and encourage you and your partner and not try to destroy what you have with your partner.

3. Friends who encourage flirting

You let your friends ruin your relationship when they always try to hook you up. It’s dangerous to have friends who think flirting and playing around is fun as this could spell danger for your relationship.

You shouldn’t have friends that always put you in tempting situations. These are not the type of friends you should have.

4. When you confide in your friends more than your partner.

If you prefer to confide more with your friends than partner, then you are letting your friends ruin your relationship.

It’s even worse when you do this if you are married. When you have big decisions to make in your life, your spouse and not your friends should be the person you confide in.

5. Your friends know everything about your relationship

If you allow your friends to know everything about your partner and your relationship, you are only asking for trouble. If you do this, you really need to stop because doing this ruins your relationship.

There are certain things in your relationship that should be kept between you and your partner alone. It’s really wrong for your friends to know everything about your relationship.

But there is definitely an exception to this rule. If you are in an abusive relationship, talking to a trusted friend is really important.

6. Your friends don't respect your relationship

You shouldn’t keep friends that don’t respect your relationship. Your friends should be there for you always without trying to replace your partner. Your relationship with your friends should be able to coexist properly without compromising your relationship with your partner.

You need to be very careful..with some friends because at the end of the day..iif you ruin your relationship,its your loss not theirs..
You cant blame them for your own stupidity.wake up.

ENDING THE RELATIONSHIP.

To end a relationship is a big decision, worsened by that heart-sinking feeling of knowing you have to tell them. The actual thought of breaking the news to your soon-to-be-ex can make you feel anxious, even terrified. Sometimes it seems easier to continue with what isn't working than to 'upset the applecart'. But if the relationship isn't right for you, then, ultimately, it's not right for them either, and the longer an unfulfilling relationship continues, the less chance we have of finding a better relationship.

Ending a relationship is never going to be pain-free, but here are some very practical ways to lessen the pain:

Step 1: Tell your partner you need to talk to them. Don't let them think that you are planning a nice intimate afternoon, only for them to be hit by a bombshell. ("Fancy going to the café?"!) Do this as close to the actual date and time as possible. It's unfair to leave them stewing for longer than necessary.

Always end the relationship in person. Phone calls, texts, emails, or getting other people to tell them are unkind and cowardly ways of breaking up, unless you fear violence from your partner.

Step 2: Make sure you will not be disturbed by interruptions by arranging to break the news in private. If they do become emotional, it can be embarrassing to have any strangers around, even if it's in a quiet park. (I for one don't want to hear someone else breaking up again.)

Choose a neutral place rather than somewhere you share; perhaps a friend's apartment when they are out. Avoid breaking up with them in a place that has past romantic associations for the two of you.

Step 3: Avoid ending the relationship during a row or when highly emotional. This just sends the signal that it was said "in the heat of the moment" and perhaps you didn't mean it.

By ending the relationship calmly and clearly, you convey you're serious, that it's definitely over.

Step 4: Don't be swayed by their emotional response. If they become upset it may be tempting to try to comfort them or even tell them that you didn't mean it just to stop them from hurting. Don't send mixed messages. This will make it more painful in the long-term.

Step 5: Avoid blaming your partner or criticizing them. Talk about the relationship as if it is an object outside of you both. "It has stopped working" is better than "you have stopped bothering with me" or "you never say anything nice!" Keep language as non-emotional as possible. Keep the word "you" out of it as much as possible. Express regret that things didn't work out. And remember, if things are wrong for you, then they too could actually have a better relationship if released from this one.

Step 6: Avoid clichés. No one wants to hear: "It's not you, it's me!" or "You're really nice, but..." or "We can still be friends" (you may be, but now is not the time to discuss that). Nor does anyone want platitudes like: "You're bound to meet someone really special who is more right for you than I am..." Just stick to the facts of the matter.

Step 7: Now the above steps are all good and well, but if you are so overwhelmed with anxiety when actually ending the relationship that sensible advice flies out the window, then something else needs to happen. You need to prepare your emotions, to be calm and clear. Being too emotional "swamps" the thinking brain, making it harder to talk and think clearly.

If you were going to do a play, you wouldn't expect not to rehearse! Likewise, the more you rehearse in your mind, whilst very relaxed, telling your partner it's over, the easier it's going to be to find yourself naturally feeling calm when you actually do it.

Find yourself a quiet space, perhaps in the bath or some other place you naturally relax. Close your eyes. Focus on your breathing slowing down. And when you are nice and relaxed...just begin to imagine watching yourself from the outside looking composed and poised as you calmly tell your partner that it's over. The more strongly you do this, the more you'll prime your mind and emotions to feel the right way about doing the right thing.

And lastly, remember: tough decisions now will make for a better life in the future -
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
Have a nice day.

THE SPECIAL KIND OF MAN.

In my line of work, I meet a lot of great husbands and the wives who adore them. Over time, it's not hard to pick up on a pattern among these men -- especially when I chat with other wives about why they chose the men they've married and what qualities in their husbands have most shaped their marriages

. For all those single women out there who often wonder what type of man they should marry or how they will know if he's "The One" they're meant to spend forever with, this list is 100 percent for you. It's based on my own personal experience as a wife, those of the many wives I've encountered throughout my career  and the observations I've made about the great husbands I've met or bumped into over the years. Not all of the answers are here, but I promise you, this list has some of the insight you seek.  Read on,

1. The Provider

He puts family first, always. He's a selfless man, who lives to please those he cares most about. He's the kind of man who can work two jobs in his sleep, always has a side-hustle in mind to earn more money, and guards his savings with his life. He can't rest until he knows the ones he loves are okay. He strives for perfection at home and in the office. Work-life balance is very important to him, but if missing time with his loved ones means a better life for them, he's always game to put in the overtime and take one for the team. Words like "no," "can't," and "impossible," are just not in his vocabulary, and when he hears others use them, it only increases his devotion to the task at hand.

Why He Makes a Good Husband: Marriage is the start of a new family -- your family. You will both want to provide for the family you create together, and it's imperative that you are partners with the same goals in mind. That said, there will be times when one person just cannot do as much as the marriage (or family) requires -- such is life. Marrying a natural-born provider will be a huge plus when the scales in your marriage tip, as they inevitably will at different points along your path.

2. The Rock

At your weakest moments, his strength keeps you stable and inspires you to push through. He isn't immune to pain or frustration, but he does handle it well, and he knows how to pull himself out of low places. He's the kind of man who never misses your call when he knows you need to get something off your chest, or better, just a friend to be there for you. Speaking of chests, his is always there for you to lean on, squeeze, and find comfort in when it feels like only a hug will do.

Why He Makes a Good Husband: He's loyal, devoted, and a true pillar in the world of the woman he loves. This is the perfect recipe for a loving husband that you can count on through thick and thin; what woman doesn't dream of marrying one of those?

3. The Critical Thinker

There isn't a problem, big or small, that he isn't itching to solve. He's a quick, solid, thinker, who hates to be backed into a corner. He doesn't just see the problem in front of him; he sees a road map of the many solutions available to him and takes his time as he determines the best way to get there, or the course of action he must take. He is patient, because he has to be -- rushing things is rarely the answer and he knows this. He's diligent, focused, and considers himself a mental Olympian of sorts.

Why He Makes a Good Husband: Marriage is truly beautiful, but it comes with its share of problems, and its rough patches. Happier times aren't always just around the bend -- getting there may require a detailed plan and thinking smarter, not harder. He will make a great team player during the moments where the only way to win is to work together, and trust me, those moments can and will arise in marriage.

4. The Believer

When the world around him comes crumbling down and the sun seems as if it will never rise again, this man still believes -- his faith is his foundation. It gets him through the good and the bad, and it never falters. He believes in the things unseen and those that many give up on when the world turns cold: hope, morals, kindness, and good will. He has a church home, or a religious mainstay in his life and the fellowship refuels his engines. He's God-fearing (whoever his God) and he's proud of his strong beliefs. His moral compass is always turned in a positive direction, and he refuses to accept failure. He helps others and chooses to live his life in a way he believes others should live theirs.

Why He Makes a Good Husband: This man has the emotional tools needed in his toolbox to repair many of the cracks and dents that will inevitably appear in any marriage. He's a fighter, and he will fight with you and for your marriage. He won't give up, even when you do.

5. The Free Spirit

Spending time with this man never gets old. He believes that life is about living and therefore is virtually immune to the physical afflictions caused by stress and worry. It's not that he doesn't feel those emotions; he just refuses to let them consume him. He stays positive and seeks to enjoy all aspects of his life, as much as humanly possible. He has most likely chosen a career he loves over one that pays all the bills. Therefore he's just as passionate about his work as he can be about feeding his cravings for new adventures. He enjoys traveling and most likely has a bucket list at least a quarter complete. He doesn't believe in wasting time worrying about what can't happen and prefers to shift his focus to what can. With him, there's never a dull moment at home, in the bedroom, or when you're out and about. His inner light shines through and warms the spirits of those around him. He keeps life exciting -- almost as if, each day he presses the refresh button.

Why He Makes a Good Husband: Spending the rest of your life with the same person, doing many of the same things can be as boring or as exciting as you make it. Marrying this man ensures that one pitfall your marriage won't ever fall into is that of pure and utter boredom. It sounds simple, but it's so important.

I wish you luck as you make up your mind to choose him.may he be right for you in all ways.
And if you re married to any of this kind of men.,please appreciate him and thank God for what you have.
Do have a nice day.

WHY DOES SHE CRY??

Why she cries? She cries because she is too delicate to harm and because she is too strong to get hurt and because she thinks with her heart and not the brain. No one has been able to figure out what goes in a woman’s mind. Her mind and heart always fight over issues and her heart always wins. A woman is a special creature of God and must be treated as one. There are fools who do not understand this. To help you understand the reasons why she cries are mentioned below.

10. HORMONES:
The last thing that will make a girl or a woman cry will be her hormones. The hormonal function of a female body will have such an effect on her that will make her more emotional on days tending to her period. 

9. SOPPY FILM:
When a woman watches a soppy film or an emotional love story she cries. The movies make them cry because they get very much involved in the movie and watch it as if she were the friend of the actress or the actress. And if something extremely good happens to her, she cries because she is happy. If something bad happens in some character’s life, she cries because she can feel the pain as well. Soppy serials have the same effect on them.

8. TENSION:
A woman is always worried about something or the other. Something is always going on in her mind. She keeps thinking about the health of her family members, proper intake of the meals, about the happiness of her friends, about the day of her husband, etc. Tension is one the reasons why she cries. She cries for failures even before she experiences one.

7. EMOTIONAL GESTURES:
A woman is very emotional and cries when someone makes a gesture which is quite touching. Genuine emotions do make her cry instantly.

6. WEDDINGS:
All the women present at a wedding are caught crying. They cry for they are happy witnessing the union of two loved ones. Unmarried women cry for they wish they find a partner for themselves soon and can be as happy as the bride.

5. GOODBYES:
A woman makes it difficult to say goodbye. You might have seen a woman crying on airport before a flight departs. Family and friends are the top priorities in life of a woman. A woman likes taking care of those loves and things that when they are away from her, they will have no one to take care of them.

4. ANGER:
Women are seen bursting into tears when they are angry. This is quite opposite of what men do. Women get angry over something if that thing was not expected. Women usually develop an emotional attachment to everything in their life and gets angry if something goes wrong. But along with anger flows the tears which show that they are also hurt by that situation. 

3. MEMORIES:
Women are those creatures who can spend hours thinking about their past and past memories. All the good and bad memories have one common reaction which is the tears. The good memories will bring equal amounts of tears as the bad ones. 

2. LOSING A LOVED ONE:
Women are not good at handling themselves if they realize that they have lost someone they loved. That someone can be anyone from her family member, friend or a colleague to a pet. A woman just can’t stand losing someone. It creates a void in their life.

1. HEARTBREAK:
The most sensitive topic of a woman’s life is love. If a woman is in love with some guy and that man did something which was not expected from him. The thing can be as big as a guy cheating on her or as silly as the guy forgetting her birthday. All such things make a woman think that the guy takes her for granted and he doesn’t love her anymore. This thought breaks her heart and she cries. A fight or breakup or divorce will make her cry for continuous days and nights.

These are most common reasons when a woman cries. 
If you are a man and you are reading this.
Please make sure you are not the reason she cries...if at all she must cry..make it tears of joy.

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NOTE TO ALL LADIES.

Ladies ...here is a note from me to you...guys hold on..this is just for the ladies..i ll make it up to you tomorrow.
My sister.
Check out these rules 

No.1 - Play hard to get.but dont overdo it of you know you want him.

No.2 - Be the woman a man needs, not the woman that needs a man.

No.3 - Always accept a compliment.

No.4 -  If he leaves or gives up on you, remember, it’s his lost. Not yours.

No.5 - If he doesn’t respect you, then you deserve better.

No.6 - You’re beautiful and no one has the rights to tell you you’re not.

No.7 - Don’t fall for a guy who isn’t willing to catch you.

No.8 - Embrace your flaws and be true to who you really are.

No.9 - Never lose faith in finding your perfect someone.

No.10 - Look like a butterfly, sting like a bee.

No.11 - Cover up. Being a mystery is more sexy than showing every inch of yourself off.

No.12 - Being single doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means you’re strong enough to wait for what you really deserve.

No.13 - The little black dress is a classic for a reason. 

No.14 - A real lady holds her head high, but never her nose. 

No.15 - Never underestimate the power of warm greeting.

No.16 - For the love of decency, never chew with your mouth open.

No.17 - A lady knows her limits no matter what, stick to your gun.

No.18 - Never make him carry your chihuahua unless you don’t want him around for very long.

No.19 - If you expect him to give you girl time, expect to give him guy time.

No.20 - A subtle, yet noticeable lip bite possesses exceptional power. Use with caution.

No.21 - True beauty comes from within.

No.22 - Confidence is sexy.

No.23- Never let a man define you. Be amazing on your own.

No.24-You might feel worthless to one person, but you’re priceless to another. Don’t ever forget your value. -Luan Legacy.

No.25- Don’t get your hopes up, don’t let your guard down.

No.26- If you’re not worth the trouble then he’s not the worth the time.

No.27- Be refined, polite and well-spoken.

No.28- Act like a lady, think like a man.

No.29- Be classy&fabulous always.

No.30- Always be yourself around him. If he can’t accept you for your quirks, then he’s not worth it.

No.31- Remember; if he wants to, he will.

No.32- Your dresses should be tight enough to show you’re a woman, but loose enough to show you’re a lady.

No.33- If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best. -Marilyn Monroe

No.34- Never regret something that once made you smile. 

No.35- Be brave, be bold and the guy will be yours.

No.36- A true lady doesn’t start fights, but sure knows how to finish them.

No.37- Make him chase you. 

No.38- Do not stereotype guys; they’re definitely not all the same.

No.39- Always classy. Never trashy. Just a little nasty.

No.40- Just as men shouldn’t play with women’s heart, women shouldn’t play with men’s heart as well.

No.41-If you don’t stand ip for yourself, no one will.

No.42- Arch your spine, and shoulders back. This is a good posture. You are not confident until you decide to be.

No.43-Never underestimate the power of a name. Use them. Be remembered.

No.44- You can never be beautiful unless you’re happy.

No.45- Chew like you have a secret.

No.46- Always have a comeback.

No.47- Maintain your mystery; men love a good hunt.

No.48- One can never be too classy.

No.49- If he does not have a chance, tell him. Don’t lead him on and make him think that he has a chance when he does not.

No.50- To the world you may just be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

No.51- Don’t wait for Prince Charming to come and save you. Remember, being independent is more attractive to men.

No.52- If you love him, tell him. Chances are, he’ll feel the same about you. 

No.53- Flirt with him enough to show your interest. But tease him enough to make him chase you.

No.54- You will never find the right guy if you are looking for the wrong reasons.

No.55- Never turn around to look back. Without doubt, he’s still looking at you.

No.56- Skirts should be like tumblr posts; long enough to cover the subject but short enough to keep things interesting.

No.57- No man is worth your tears, and the one who us won’t make you cry.

No.58- Beauty get the attention, but personality gets the heart.

No.59- You’re beautiful in every single way.

No.60- A sincere smile is a lady’s most beautiful feature.

No.61- It’s better to be hated for who you are than be loved for someone you’re not.

No.62- “Anorexia is a disease. Not a fashion statement.” -Sophia Bush

No.63- Modesty isn’t always overrated. A little mystery never hurt anyone.

No.64- Don’t just expect to find love, wait and it will come.

No.65- A guy doesn’t ever have to be more than a friend, sometimes things are better that way.

No.66- Ladies should never hit a man either. Violence isn’t classy.

No.67- You shouldn’t need to raise your voice. If you’re dealing with a person who won’t listen unless you speak forcefully, then they aren’t worth dealing with.

No.68- Never apologize for what you feel. It’s like saying sorry for being real.

No.69- A man willing to do anything just to place a smile on your face is one worth keeping. 

No.70- Be happy. Someone could be falling for your smile. 

No.71- Never make a man a priority in your life if you are just an option in his. 

No.72- A lady should be able to make a man smile with her clothes on.

No.73- Talk loud enough so people can hear you, but soft enough so he’ll have to lean in closer.

No.74- Being different doesn’t mean you’re uncanny. You’re just limited edition.

No.75- A man forgets, but never forgives. But a lady, forgives. But never forgets.

No.76- “In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different” -Coco Chanel

No.77- “Always dress like you’re going to see your worst enemy.” -Kimora Lee Simmons

No.78- Leave the rumor-spreading and trash talking to Gossip Girl.

No.79- Always arrive at a dinner party 15 minutes late. There’s nothing wrong with being fashionably late.

No.80- Never show you’re intimidated, it shows weakness.

No.81- Remember; the treasure doesn’t do the hunting. 

No.82- Make a man fall for your intelligence, not for your body and your double Ds.

No.83- Always act like you are wearing an invisible crown.

No.84- Respect from others come from self-respect.

No.85- “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

No.86- A lady should not swear. Class is defined by elegance and dignity, not by vulgar language.

No.87- It’s better to know and be disappointed than to never know and always wonder.

No.88-Being intelligent is sexy, don’t play stupid. 

No.89- Just because someone invites you to drama does not mean you have to RSVP.

No.90- Look up the definition of sophistication. Embody it. 

No.91- Ladies, never label yourself as a dime. Keep in mind that real women don’t worry about being dimes because real mean don’t carry change.

No.92- Remember; All limitations are self imposed.

No.93- “Be the flame, not the moth.” -Casanova

No.94- A lady should never throw a punch, the world is already as cruel as it is, let the universe take care of them.

No.95- Take a risk, even if you fall. Because if that’s what you really want, it should be worth it all. 

No.96- When asked for suggestion, don’t be afraid to give your opinion. Being assertive is an attractive feature, indecisiveness is not.

No.97- You were born an original. Don’t become a copy.

No.98- “A wise girl kisses but doesn’t love, listens but doesn’t believe and leaves before she is left.” -Marilyn Monroe 

No.99- Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.

No.100- If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

No.101- Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius. It’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.

No.102- “If you must say yes, say it with an open heart. If you must say no, say it without fear.” -Paulo Coelho

No.103- If he’s willing to cheat with you, he’s willing to cheat on you. 

No.104- Crying does not mean you are weak. Not crying does not mean you are strong. Never be afraid of being yourself.

No.105- Every day is a fashion show and the world is your runway. So always dress your best and walk with confidence.

No.106- Success is the best revenge.

No.107- Never be afraid to love. You’ll sabotage yourself without knowing.

No.108- The moment you stop looking for something, you will find it.

No.109- It’s better to be alone and dignified, than to have companionship and be taken advantage of.

No.110- Beauty is about living your life and being happy with yourself inside and out. Not worrying about what people think of you. 

No.111- Don’t let doubt cause you to ignore your heart. Trust your heart. 

No.112- Yelling during an argument means you’ve already lost the fight.

No.113- Remember that if you give a second chance you’re saying that you have forgiven his past. Don;t keep holding it against him. 

No.114- Don’t be upset and caught up in something you cannot change. Instead, move on and smile. You deserve to be happy. 

No.115- Your smile is the sexiest curve on your entire body. 

No.116- Love never fails. If it fails, then it’s not love. 

No.117- Be generous with expressions of gratitude such as : ‘Thank You’ and ‘I appreciate that’.

No.118- If there is anything a lady should blow, it should be his mind. 

No.119- Dress up, not down. 

No.120- If you love two men, choose the second, because if you fell in love with the second, then you never truly loved the first.

No.121- Don’t expect anyone to love or respect you if you don’t fully love yourself first. 

No.122- Looks may attract them, but your personality is what keeps them there. 

No.123- Fill the void in your life with work and accomplishments, not self destruction, think of the woman you could be.

No.124- Ladies, it’s okay to cry. Just don’t forget that God has prepared the right one for you since the day you were born. 

No.125- A bitch barks and bite. A lady behaves.

No.126- Never make fun of a love-struck fool because one day, it could be you. 

No.127- Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Wait until you find a boy who treats you like a queen. 

No.128- It’s good to be outspoken and blunt but there’s a very fine line between being rude and honest. Never confuse the two. 

No.129- Do not let anybody who won’t be in your life for long change who you are and what you plan to do for yourself. 

No.130- Sophistication is every woman’s best wardrobe.

No.131- Let your smile change the world. Don’t let the world change your smile. 

No.132- Humility is one of the most beautiful traits a lady should have. 

No.133- Not every person you disagree with is an enemy. Otherwise, the entire world would be at war. 

No.134- A beautiful face wrinkles and sags with time; but a beautiful heart withstands the ages. 

No.135- Don’t ever let the media tell you what your body is supposed to look like. You’re beautiful the way you are. 

No.136- Wake up everyday stronger than yesterday, face your fears and wipe your tears.

No.137- There’s only one thing ladies should be inserting in themselves and that’s knowledge.

No.138- “It’s better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone.” -Marilyn Monroe

No.139- Always remember that boys aren’t necessities. They’re luxuries. 

No.140- Ladies, do not judge someone you don’t know. For all you know, today could be their last day alive. 

No.141- “You’re not supposed to look back, you’re supposed to keep going.” -The Lovely Bones 

No.142- Never lie to someone who trusts you and never trust someone who lies to you. 

No.143- Be a lover, not a fighter, but always fight for what you love. No matter what. 

No.144- Keep calm and carry on. 

No.145- You can never fully understand what someone is going through. But, try to understand. 

No.146- Life isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about creating yourself. 

No.147- If you’re not his only one, then he’s not the one. 

No.148- Let your past make you better, not bitter. 

No.149- Always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. 

No.150- Forget the risks and take the fall. If it’s meant to be, then it’s worth it all. 

No.151- Respect people’s feelings. Even if it doesn’t mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. 

No.152- Until a man has done something to make you dislike or not trust him, don’t make him pay for the troubles another man caused. 

No.153- Forget what hurt you in the past. But, never forget what it taught you. 

No.154- Never let people get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. 

No.155- Don’t be afraid to change. You may lose out on something good, but you might gain something even better. 

No.156- No matter how many coins you toss into the fountain or how many fingers you cross, if it’s not meant to be, it won’t happen. 

No.157- Choose who you open up to wisely. Only a few actually cares, the rest are just curious. 

No.158- Embrace those who love you and rid yourself of those who bring you down. 

No.159- It’s better to let someone walk away from you, than all over you.

No.160- Treat everybody equally. Their sexual orientation should not matter. 

No.161- Always remember to smile not only because you can but also because you deserve to. 

No.162- Make wise decisions and you’ll have nothing to regret later. 

No.163- Never put someone else down to make yourself feel better. 

No.164- If a man whistles at you, do not respond. You are a lady, not a dog. 

No.165- A true lady can handle herself in the sheets, but still be classy on the streets. 

No.166- Cinderella didn’t need to take off her dress to get her Prince Charming, and neither do you. 

No.167- What doesn’t kill you, will only make you stronger. Remember that. 

No.168- Don’t let a stranger put words in your mouth. Say how you really feel. 

No.169- You will never be better than his mother. Don’t compete. Any man who puts his mother at number one is worth it. 

No.170- “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” -Audrey Hepburn

No.171- To get something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done. 

No.172- You deserve to be accepted, loved and celebrated for exactly who you are. 

No.173- Do not mess with someone else’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. 

No.174- If you have to keep wondering where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time you stop standing and start walking. 

No.175- When in a relationship, do not ever forget about your friends. 

No.176- If you want something, don’t wish for it. Life is too short too wait. 

No.177- Find a heart that will love you at your worst and arms that will hold you at your weakest. 

No.178- “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” -Kurt Cobain

No.179- Happiness is the secret to all beauty. There is no beauty without happiness. 

No.180- Don’t take someone for granted just because everytime you push them away, they’d always come running back. Because one day, they won’t. 

No.181- Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely. 

No.182- You are stronger than you seem, braver than you believe and smarter than you think you are. 

No.183- Treat your man with the same respect he gives you. Respect his feelings and in return, he will respect you above all the rest. 

No.184- Before you assume, learn the facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel. Before you speak, think. 

No.185- If you love someone, tell him or her. Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous. What is truly ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart in invested in him or her. 

No.186- Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there. 

No.187- At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks as long as you’re happy. 

No.188- Dream as if you’ll live forever; Live as if you’ll die today. 

No.189- The less you care, the happier you will be. 

No.190- An ugly personality destroys a beautiful face. 

No.191- “Love is needing someone. Love is putting up with someone’s bad qualities because they somehow complete you.” -Sarah Dessen

No.192- Never look down on anyone unless you’re helping them up.

No.193- Always listen to your heart because even though it’s on your left side, it’s always right.

No.194- Be with someone that will realize what they have when they have you, not when they’ve lost you.

No.195- The only way to forget is to accept; and the only way to move on is to look ahead. 

No.196- If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it. 

No.197- Be there for your friends when they need it. It’ll mean the world to them. 

No.198- If you don’t do foolish things while you’re young, you won’t have anything to smile about when you’re old. 

No.199- Never give up on anybody. MIracles happen everyday. 

No.200- “Just because you’ve failed once, it doesn’t mean you’re going to fail at everything.” -Marilyn Monroe

No.201- Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end. 

No.202- There are two ways to live : You can either live as if nothing’s a miracle or live as if everything’s a miracle. 

No.203- “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” -Albert Einstein

No.204- Your face is not a coloring book. Go easy on the make up or you’ll look like a clown. 

No.205- Fall in love with someone who deserves your heart. Not someone who plays with it.

No.206- If you love someone, be brave enough to tell them. Otherwise, be brave enough to watch them be loved by someone else.

No.207- If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it.

No.208- When someone sends you a nice message, be sure to reply. 

No.209- Don’t go around experimenting with people’s lives. Don’t.

No.210- Never make someone your everything because once they are gone, you’ll have nothing. 

No.211- If you love somebody, don’t let them slip away.

No.212- Just because he doesn’t realize it, doesn’t mean you’re not beautiful.

No.213- Just because you’re free to say whatever you want, it doesn’t always mean you should.

No.214- Do not give up. The beginning is always the hardest.

No.215- Avoid running back to that one person you need to walk away from.

No.216- Don’t let a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life. 

No.217- Change because you want to. Don’t change because someone wants you to. 

No.218- Laugh when you can, apologize when you should and let go of what you cannot change. 

No.219- When your friends are having problems with their relationship, the best thing to do is to stay out of it. 

No.220- Stay strong and never give up.

No.221- Know when to let go and when to keep fighting. 

No.222- Before you get into a serious relationship, know your worth. Don’t let anyone take advantage of you. 

No.223- If you go away during someone’s struggle, don’t expect to be present during their success. 

No.224- Beauty is not measured by the amount of make up on your skin or the price of the clothes you wear. Beauty is what’s on the inside. 

No.225- Always have faith in yourself.

No.226- “The worst mistake you can make is walking away from the person who actually stood there and waited for you.” -Drake

No.227- You do not deserve a point of view if the only thing you see is you. 

No.228- Sometimes the person you want the most is also the person you’re best without. 

No.229- Just because it’s not happening right now, it doesn’t mean it never will. 

No.230- “Happiness can only come from the inside of you and is the result of the love you have for yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness.” -Miley Cyrus 

No.231- Don’t let him have the satisfaction of knowing you’ll always be there waiting. 

No.232- Don’t waste your tears on someone who doesn’t even deserve to see your smile. 

No.233- “You live but once; you might as well be amusing.” -Coco Chanel

Do have a nice day..

DON'T FIGHT THE MISTRESS..

Being cheated on in a marriage is one of the most painful experiences that a husband can subject his wife to. Yes, the pain is excruciating and can a woman's life upside down. Loving a husband faithfully for years only for him to fall into the hands of another woman humiliates a wife and robs her of her worth, as a woman, and self-esteem.

The emotional breakdown that comes with this betrayal makes the woman resentful, angry, frustrated and confused.

Once the woman is turned into an emotional roller-coaster, she is likely to lose her identity and isolate herself from family and friends - those who she needs most to cope. However, trying to suppress unsettling feelings only turns her into a time-bomb. Hell has no fury like a woman scorned and I can only imagine what runs through the mind of such a wife: Am I not good enough for my man? Was it a one-off or a full blown affair with the 'other woman'? The lingering question is whether to confront the man's side dish or walk away from the marriage gracefully and with dignity. Should a wife decide to save her marriage, she may take matters into her hands and confront the 'other woman', warning her of dire consequences if she does not leave her husband alone. This, in most cases, is done on impulse.

Is a mistress worth all the drama? What will the drama do to the wife? Find out the reasons why she is not worth your attention.

She is a time-waster...

An old cliche, we all know and understand, says time is money. So, invest yours wisely. Although it is the first thing that crosses the mind of a cheated wife, engaging in a verbal or physical confrontation with the other woman is degrading. Take time to assess the situation to know why your husband strayed. Did the fire die out, and you and your husband can do something to relight it? Have you become too busy for each other? Do you always complain of having headache when your husband touches you? Is your husband the type that has roving eyes? Try to look for solutions to problems you identify in your marriage. Otherwise confronting her may leave you bitter and resentful, especially if she has the audacity to tell you: "There isn't enough men to go round, so let's just share darling." If she is not the bold type she will deny and you will not make any headway. Do not waste your time seeking explanations from her. She may use the opportunity to humiliate you.

. "I would not advise any woman to confront her husband's mistress. She is not worth her time. First off, she will not admit to being his lover. Secondly, she may rip into the wife's heart further by telling her she can sleep with whoever she chooses, and there is nothing the wife can do about it. Worse still, the mistress may tell you that you ares simply not good enough for your husband."

2. Your husband can provide answers ...

It takes two to tango, right? Other than the mistress, there is another person who deserves to face your wrath - your husband. He should be the first person to provide answers to your nagging questions. Some women give excuses for their men to justify their behaviour, hopefully to appear like an understanding, caring wife but it is pointless. He made vows before God and the people that he will be there for you through thick and thin. It is his duty to protect you and guard your heart. It is his duty to preserve your marriage and guard jealously what you have built together over the years. Regardless of the reasons why he cheated on you, he was wrong. Sit him down and ask him to explain why he took on another woman. Let him know the damage he has caused. This is not easy and may require God's grace - after all what you probably would want most is to tear him into pieces. Be careful not to insult him or create a situation that may punctuate into a shouting match. It will leave you drained.

3. It might complicate things ...

Have you ever thought what would happen if you were to confront your husband's mpango wa kando,bitch,mistress or olosho: The move may make the side dish more bold that she may even tell your husband that their secret affair is now an open secret, and there was no need to keep it under wraps because you already know about it.

Your husband may also feel as though you are invading his privacy and may spite you publicly by introducing the 'other woman' to his close friends - after all, you already know she exists. This is because most men are very discreet when it comes to illicit affairs. So, don't provoke him and avoid the devil ....a fight could lead into something else......

4. You will be stooping too low...

You see, a woman who has gone down that road in most cases has no apologies to make as she does not regard marriage as sanctified institution. By confronting her, therefore, you will only be stooping to her level. Engaging her into a verbal exchange will hurt your dignity and reduce you into a packet of misery.

Dealing with a woman with no moral scruples may leave you in a precarious situation as she will not shy away from hurling despicable and unprintable insults at you, which you may not have audacity to respond to. Even if you are on the verge of losing your husband, your integrity need not go down the drain too. It is absolutely unnecessary to hit your head against the wall.

"It is okay for a woman with loose morals to have an illicit affair with a married man. She has no qualms and has no problem destroying someone else's family. It is for this reason that a wife should think twice before confronting her. She may end up comparing herself with the wife, yet both of them have absolutely nothing in common. One is a home-wrecker, with no scruples while the other one is a home builder with moral uprightness."

Women have varied views on the best way to handle the situation but I insist you keep off your husband's lover. Don't humiliate yourself by confronting the 'other woman'. You will only become more vulnerable and anything she says will drive you nuts.

No matter how painful it is, always remember you are in the driver's seat. Smile, you are the one married to your husband here, not her. You are there to stay and she is just a passing cloud.

If you feel so sad and confused  and you badly need to talk to someone..remember God is willing to listen.
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HE IS YOUR KING,RESPECT HIM.

Growing up, I never really learned what respect was, why men needed it, or how I was supposed to provide it.

I am extremely blessed to have two very Godly and wonderful parents, but my mother also happens to be a peacemaker. She has the gentle and loving spirit thing down pat. I… do not. And I had no intentions of going into marriage always being sweet and kind and polite and always letting my husband have his own way. I don’t care that I’m the woman–my opinion matters too!

You can just imagine how well that went over. Let’s just say–I’ve learned a lot of lessons the hard way. And the more lessons I learn, the more grateful I am for my amazing husband who has stuck by me every step of the way, even when I’m sure it hasn’t been easy.

Respect doesn’t come easy to me.

Not because I don’t love my husband or think highly of him… but because I’m opinionated and I honestly don’t realize when things that wouldn’t offend me in the slightest are deeply offensive to him. But I’m working on it. For now, I imagine, that’s the best I can do.

Perhaps you’re like me–you want to respect your husband, but you don’t know how or you’re worried about becoming a doormat. Let me reassure you, respecting your husband does NOT make you a doormat. It makes you an awesome wife who treats her husband incredibly well. And chances are, if you’re husband is a pretty good guy, it won’t be long until he’s showering the love and affection right back on you! Sometimes, you just have to go first–even if you don’t feel like it. Here’s how.

1. Find Ways to Talk Him Up–Not Tear Him Down

How often do you make jokes at your husband’s expense (even if you are “joking”), point out areas for improvement or bring up past mistakes your husband has made? No one likes to be reminded of their shortcomings, even though we all have them. Even the little comments you see as harmless can be really hurtful to your husband–whether he shows it or not.

I don’t care who your husband is, you can find something nice to say about him–probably lots of things!–even if you have to be creative. Don’t stick to just the big things either. Tell him how proud you are of him, how lucky you are to be his wife, how much you love certain things about him–be his biggest fan!

2. Let Him Do Things His Own Way

When you’re the one who does the majority of the housework and child rearing, it is very easy to fall into certain routines and ways of doing things. Just because your way is the best way for you, however, doesn’t mean it’s the only way. And insisting that things be done your way essentially says that your husband isn’t capable of handling the task. How emasculating!

The next time your husband loads the dishwasher, feeds the kids dinner, changes the baby’s diaper or puts the laundry away, don’t pester him to make sure he does it your way and don’t go through afterwards to “fix” whatever he’s done. Thank him sincerely for his help. You never know; you just might learn a new trick or two yourself.

3. Don’t Mother Him

As loving and attentive mothers, it can often be very difficult to turn off “mom mode” and switch to “wife mode” instead. Do you find yourself constantly reminding your husband to do things he should be capable of doing on his own, offering him “helpful” suggestions for ways he can improve his life, or expecting him to get your approval before he takes action? If so, you’re likely acting more like his mom than his wife. Not only is this terribly unsexy, but it also sends the message that he isn’t capable, you can’t trust his judgement or that you don’t think he’s good enough.

4. Watch Your Body Language

Do you ever roll your eyes, sigh loudly or even walk out of the room while your husband is talking? Do you look at him like he’s an idiot, or neglect to look at him at all? Whether you realize it or not, all of these subtle (and not so subtle!) physical cues convey the message that what he has to say isn’t important or that you’re better than him.

Think back to the time before you were married. What was your body language like then? Chances are you hung on his every word, made googly eyes at him and touched him every chance you got. Find a way to recapture that again.

5. Be a Willing and Enthusiastic Sexual Partner(to the degree that you are able)

For many men, when you reject sex, it feels like you are rejecting THEM. Of course most men will understand if you’ve had a horrible day, you’re in pain or if you’re still working through past sexual hurts, but if you frequently find yourself saying no, making excuses, not making sex a priority, or always doing the bare minimum, can you blame them for taking it personally?

If you can have great sex with your husband, do it and be enthusiastic about it! If sex is very difficult for you, keep the lines of communication open and do the best you can. It’s not the amount that matters as much as the willing, eager and excited attitude you have at the idea of being one with each other.

Learning how to respect your husband can definitely be a complicated and difficult task, but the truth is, as a good wife, it’s your responsibility and your privilege. Talk to your husband to find out how you’re doing as a wife, and be humble and willing to receive any suggestions he may offer. You may be surprised at how much your marriage will improve as a result!

You can also watch on youtube radioqueenshow  in episode 4 there is so much to learn from yhe concubines.

Have a wonderful day

TREAT HER RIGHT.

Hope you had a wonderful vals day?
This is for the men.
Here i want to share some pretty awful things you definitely don't want creeping into your marriage or relationship.. Your wife deserves better than a husband with any of these  ugly habits.

1. Critical

Please watch yourself and don't get caught in the trap of criticizing your wife. Choose to see the good in your wife. Compliment her on all the things she is doing right. Next time you find yourself wanting to tell her something you don't like about her, switch it around and pay her a sincere compliment. She will love it.

2. Controlling

Believe it or not, you aren't always right. And your beautiful wife is actually very good at making her own decisions (and typically she makes very good decisions). So stop feeling like you need to control where she's going, what she's doing, how much she's spending and more. Instead of stressing about that, work together as a team, encouraging and supporting each other. Let your wife be her own person, and give her wings to fly.

3. Treats you like an object

Please, husbands! Your wife isn't an object. She is your wife, your best friend and your queen. She deserves your utmost respect, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. Always respect her and her body and work on establishing emotional connection and trust before thinking about sharing sexual intimacy with your wife. Sex can be the most unifying, fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage when you both treat each other respectfully.

4. Doesn't give you the time of day

You have a wife. You lucky guy. Please don't forget about her. Don't be too busy to call her, text her or recognize her when she walks in the room. The next time you see her, give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Let her know she is your top priority by putting her first — ahead of work, time with your buddies, or watching that game. Sit on the couch and talk to her. Tell her about your day, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny experiences. Beware, you may find that sparks suddenly start flying around like crazy.

5. Uses crude or dirty language

Husbands, come on. You aren't teenage boys anymore (and even then, bad language wasn't really cool). Watch your mouth. Work to cut the swearing habit, and remove crude, rude and dirty language from your vocabulary. You may be amazed at all the other words available for use in expressing your feelings. Your wife deserves to hear words that a gentleman would speak, not a raga-muffin. Buy yourself a dictionary. OK, not really, but try some new words. Your wife will be tickled pink and others will think you're much more

6. Views pornography

This is one sure way to ruin your marriage, your life and your future. Simply put, don't view pornography and let your eyes linger everywhere you go. Look inward and decide to choose a better path. If you are entrenched in the ugly habit of pornography, seek out professional help (there are many great resources to turn to). Find a counselor who can help you begin the process of becoming free from this addiction. You have to want change for yourself and for those you love. So dig deep and decide what kind of life you really want.

7. Has too high of expectations

The last thing your sweet wife needs to hear is that she doesn't measure up to your unrealistic expectations. Please don't compare your wife's body, budgeting skills, or parenting skills to so-and-so down the street. Your comparisons will, over time, crush her self-esteem. Decide to be kind, to be patient, to be forgiving and to be flexible. The more you emphasize all of her positive qualities, the more she will naturally start living up to those positive compliments and become the woman you describe, and more.

8. Doesn't help out around the house

Seriously? You may bring in half the income, or all of it, but that doesn't mean you can chill on the couch while your wife cleans, tidies and washes dishes day-in and day-out. Kick it up a notch and offer to help out. Clean the toilet (yes, the one you use every day), carry in the groceries or unload the dishwasher (oh, the horror). You and your wife are a team and ought to work side by side creating the home of your dreams.

9. Loses his temper often

You are a grown man. Yelling at your wife is not appropriate, effective or helpful. Hitting is completely off limits. Rage, lashing out, throwing things and threatening are all forms of abuse. You can learn to control your temper. You can learn to respond calmly and with love. As you do, your wife will feel safe with you and love being around you.

10. Lies and cheats

If you think you can sneak off with that babe from work and your wife will never know, then you're kidding yourself and in for a very rude awakening. And honestly, even if your wife never found out, it's still wrong. Don't throw away everything that is truly meaningful for a fleeting moment of pleasure. Choose to be honest. Choose to be loyal. Live up to those promises you made to your bride. She deserves all that, and more.

Now, if you saw yourself in any of these ugly habits, don't beat yourself up. Rather decide to be better and make changes. Chart a course today that will lead you, and your wife, to that happily-ever-after marriage you have always wanted.

Do have a blessed weekend.

TRUE LOVE

True Love Is Something That Everyone Wants To Feel!!

What is true love? The true love is something that everyone wants to feel, but it is a fact that only a little part of the people has the luck to meet her. What is actually the true love? That is the most beautiful thing that can happen to someone, because that is one shared feeling. When you meet someone and fall in love with him that is not the true love still. If this person shares your feelings that still is not the true love.

But it is true that this is the first step to that amazing feeling. The true love is something more then falling in love. She is at the first place trust, because without him every relationship is fated and can’t survive a long time. When you have trust in your partner you are anxiety-free. That must be shared because when the one person in the relationship believes in the other, but the other don’t do this, this leads to problems and probably to broke up. The true love is a friendship. You must to can be not only lover to your partner, you must be his friend.

Your partner must be the man from who you can ask for advice and who you can say your secrets, because he will not say to no one else this things, he wouldn’t be betrayed by you too. It is a true love when you can talk about everything with the person who you are in love with. Exactly the talking is the most important thing for the true love, because when the partners talk, they can find a decision to every problem, which they have. One big part of the couples breaking up, because they can’t or don’t want to talk. When the love is a true love, she can survive everything. Every problem is a test for the feelings and strength of one relationship. The true love is help. When you really love someone you are ready to help him right away and to do everything for him.

Of course this must be shared. The true love is care, because when you are in love with someone you make everything that your partner can feel fine and loved. When the love is a true love this fact automatically eliminates the egoism, because now you are not alone and you must thing about the wishes, which have the person with who you are. When you love someone you want to make him happy. The true love means support too. The feeling when you know that by you stands someone who loves you and every time will support you, is really great. One love is true when the two in the relationship are frank and honest.

The true love is aspiration for acquaintance of the man who you are in love with. When you became well familiarize with your partner, you will find his entire blemish, but you must not aspire to remove them. If your partner’s love to you is real he will make everything possible to remove them himself. When two people can make so that their character fit and when they can make compromises that mean that these people love each other and their love is a true love. To find the true love means to find a perfect match for you, your half. The people are saying that everyone has a half somewhere over the world, but these who meet her are only a little part.

When the love is shared, she is a true love and makes you one better person and the world look like a better place for a living. When you and your partner have the same thinking and the same conception for the life, you can be together a very long time. The true love is when two people want to spend their time together in loving each other and when their love survives all of the obstacles, which they meet during their life together. Furthermore, if the people are able to keep their love the same as it was in the beginning through out the years, you can say that this is true love. Remember that finding the true love of your life is really hard and you may need more than one lifetime to make that happen, but in the end it will be worth it. Make sure that you will never stop searching for the true love, because there is no set date that you will find it and also the true love is likely to appear in odd circumstances.

And if you ve found true love already..lucky you.take care of what you ve got

Happy val
Do have a wonderful day.

THE RIGHT APOLOGY

Have you ever noticed that what one person considers to be an apology, is not what another person considers to be an apology? What is an apology?

It’s different things to different people.   Each person has a primary apology language,. If you don’t speak their language, they may consider your apology insincere.

A Question of Sincerity

Ever had someone apologize to you and you questioned their sincerity? Ever ask yourself why? It’s probably because they did not speak your apology language. They said, “I’m sorry.” But what you wanted to hear was, “I was wrong.” They said, “Will you forgive me?” But what you wanted to hear was, “What can I do to make this right?”

Many of our apologies come across as insincere because we are not speaking the apology language of the offended person. If couples can learn each other’s primary apology language and speak it when they offend each other, forgiveness will be much easier.

Do you know the anguages of apology?

# 1 – Expressing Regret – “I’m sorry.” “I feel badly about what I did.”

# 2 – Accepting Responsibility – “I was wrong.” “It was my fault.”

# 3 – Making Restitution – “What can I do to make it right?”

# 4 – Genuinely Repenting – “I’ll try not to do that again.”

# 5 – Requesting Forgiveness – “Will you please forgive me?”

Speaking the Right One

When you apologize, you are trying to make things right. So you say, “I’m sorry. I was wrong. I know I hurt you and I feel badly about it. Will you forgive me?” But your spouse says, “How could you do that if you loved me? How can I forgive you when you never do anything to ‘make it right’?” You feel frustrated and don’t know what to do next. The problem is not your sincerity; the problem is that you are not speaking the right apology language.

Which Do You Want to Hear?

Which one of the five languages of apology do you want to hear? That is your primary apology language.

Apologize effectively by learning your spouse’s apology language and speaking it when you know you have offended each other. Ask your spouse, “When I apologize, what do you want to hear from me?” You may be surprised at their answer, but it will give you their primary apology language. Learning to speak each other’s apology language will lead you to a growing marriage or relationship.
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Happy valentine in advance......

ARE YOU HAPPY IN THAT RELATIONSHIP???

It can be hard to learn how to tell if you're unhappy in a relationship, especially if you've been in your relationship for a really, really long time. Sometimes, comfort can be mistaken as happiness and you don't want that. What ways are there for learning how to tell if you're unhappy in a relationship? Take a look below,

1. YOU FEAR COMMITTING

Finding out you are really unhappy in your relationship is always hard, but learning how to tell if you're unhappy in a relationship is even harder sometimes. Do you constantly fear committing to your partner? Do you not think that you are completely good together? Do you imagine breaking up all of the time? These are signs that you've got to watch out for. You should want to be with your partner forever, if you are serious about them.

2. YOU CONCEAL YOUR TRUE SELF

What about your true self? Do you reveal that to your partner? Do you feel like you can be yourself around him or her? If not, why are you with them? You should be able to be completely true to yourself in front of your partner. You should be able to be completely open and let them #read you.

3. YOU SNOOP A LOT

While this might seem like a distrustful action, you probably are just snooping because you are hoping to find some shred of something that you can break up with them for. While you might be somewhat happy sometimes in your relationship, overall you are unhappy and you want to break up; you just don't know how, so you snoop, hoping to find something.

4. CONSTANTLY DEPRESSED

Being depressed is something that is constant in your life, especially in terms of your relationship. When you think about the future and being with your#girlfriend or boyfriend, you are extremely depressed and you don't really want to dwell on it.

5. IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT YOUR PARTNER CONSTANTLY

Oh, this is where the breakup part comes into play. Do you constantly think about ending your relationship? What about just disappearing and never coming back? I did this in my last relationship and it was awful. That is the reason why we aren't together anymore! If you can imagine your life without your partner, why are you still with them?

6. YOU HIDE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FROM OTHER PEOPLE

Does your family know that you are dating someone? Do your friends know? These are the #people that are constant in your life and if you feel the need to be ashamed of your relationship, why are you in it? Why do you think that you have to hide your relationship? That's an important question to consider too!

7. YOU RESENT YOUR PARTNER

Additionally, if you are failing at a lot of these #signs but you are constantly resenting your partner for no real reason at all – other than existing – why are you with them again? Resentment is a common thing to feel when you really are unhappy in your relationship and when you really don't want to be with him or her anymore

9. YOU KEEP HOPING YOUR PARTNER WILL CHANGE

A common piece of relationship advice is to not try to change your partner. But, we can also be guilty of staying in relationship secretly hoping that he/she does change. Don't wait for your partner to change because if it hasn't happened by now, it probably won't happen later.

10. YOU LOOK FOR WAYS TO SPEND TIME APART

Healthy couples look for ways to spend time with their partner but also want their own set of friends and interests outside of the relationship. If you frequently look for excuses or ways you can get out of spending time with your partner, you can bet that you're pretty unhappy.

11. YOU REMINISCE OVER OLD FEELINGS

Relationships evolve and life changes so there will be times when you #lookback and reminisce over old times. However, if you find yourself always looking back to when you first started dating and how happy and in love you were, it might be time to talk things out or move on.

12. YOU LIE TO YOURSELF

Lies in a relationship are never a good thing and if you catch yourself telling a fib here and there, it's time to set things straight. Do you keep telling yourself that if you leave, no one will love you or that the relationship is going well because it's your fault? Be honest with yourself and stop the negative self-talk.

13. YOU DON'T FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF

If you stopped feeling good about yourself as a result of your relationship, it's a sure sign you're unhappy in your relationship. We all have doubts and insecurities, but our partner and/or relationship isn't supposed to make us feel worse about ourselves.

14. YOU'VE CONTEMPLATED CHEATING

This is a big, big sign that you're unhappy in your relationship. If you feel like you have to turn to somebody else, it isn't good. By this point, you and your partner barely communicate. If you find yourself opening up about your problems to another #man, this is an example of an emotional affair! Of course, if you've thought about sleeping with someone else, it's time to #facethe facts: this current relationship isn't for you.

15. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE SETTLING

If you know deep in your heart that your partner isn't "the one," you probably feel like you're settling in this relationship. It doesn't have to be that way! You deserve to find your happy ending and your partner deserves to know you feel - why continue to waste #time on something that isn't making you happy? If you feel like there's something bigger and better out in the #world, go find it.

16. ARGUMENTS CUT SHORT

Nobody likes to argue, that's a given. However, if you find yourself just cutting your #partner off whenever he brings up an issue, it's because you don't care enough to resolve it. You've given up on fixing things and that's because you don't see a future with the two of you.

17. YOU'RE TIRED OF YOUR ROUTINE

It's very easy for couples to fall into a routine. As convenient and cute as it was when it first started out, you've grown tired of always knowing exactly what's going to happen. Your life has become predictable and that's made you unhappy. You have to find a way to try and spice #things up!

Now that you know what signs to watch out for in your relationship to tell if you are really unhappy, what are you going to do about it? Do you want to stay in an unhappy #relationship?
The choice is yours.
Have a nice weekend.

POPULAR LOVE MISCONCEPTION.

There are a lot of popular lies about relationships that aren’t actually true! In the long term, they can really affect your happiness and even make you lose trust in your partner.

Try not to let all those misconceptions about love and how a healthy and loving relationship should be affect the way you feel about your significant other.

Every relationship is different because the two people involved are different. If you think that a relationship should be a certain way and yours isn’t like that, frustration can set in and it may prevent you from noticing how wonderful your partner actually is.
Here are a few very common myths about relationships that need to be busted, because they are not even remotely true and can create unrealistic expectations:

1. A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP DOESN’T REQUIRE ANY WORK

This is one of the most common myths about relationships that aren’t actually true. Every relationship requires a lot of work from both partners, since a relationship is just like a plant. You need to water it, give it enough sunlight and care for it if you want it to blossom. Have patience and be prepared to put some effort into your relationship, if you want it to flourish.

2. JEALOUSY IS A SIGN OF LOVE

This statement couldn’t be more false! Jealousy is not a sign of love; it actually reflects how confident you are with yourself and your relationship. Try to strengthen that special bond you two share and solve any issues that may affect your intimacy. Making your partner jealous is never a good idea, since your strategy can backfire and your behavior may really affect the stability of your relationship.

3. COUPLES COUNSELING DOES NOT WORK

If you go to couples therapy, it does not mean that you will not be able to solve your problems. Even though most couples seek therapy when they are on the verge of a split up, that doesn’t mean that it won’t help you solve your problems and re-discover how wonderful your #partner is, and that you are actually the perfect match for each other. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, since this may help improve your relationship and strengthen your bond!

4. FIGHTS CAN RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Fights don’t have to necessarily ruin your relationship! You can always learn how to fight in a friendlier and more productive way, so you’ll be able to clarify certain things and work on improving certain aspects of your relationship. They can be an important form of communication, so they shouldn’t always damage your relationship.

5. HAVING A CHILD WILL STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

If your relationship is not doing so good and you have a lot of problems you should solve, having a child will not strengthen your bond. On the contrary, it can even make #things worse. Solve your issues first and have a baby only if you both decide that you are prepared for such a responsibility and you both want this. Have realistic expectations and don’t have a #baby just because you couldn’t find a better way to solve your problems!

6. YOU SHOULD NOT EXPERIENCE ANY DOUBT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Just because you sometimes experience doubt in your #relationship, it doesn’t mean that you are with the wrong person. We can’t be 100 percent sure of anything, and doubt can sometimes be healthy, especially when you have to make an important decision. It’s only natural to wonder if you want to spend the rest of your life with the person you’re with; it’s actually a sign of intelligence and thoughtfulness.

7. IF YOU DON’T FEEL BUTTERFLIES, THEN YOU MUST NOT REALLY LOVE YOUR PARTNER

Everyone feels butterflies in the beginning of their relationship, but that doesn’t mean that you have to feel this way all the #time. Love changes, it evolves, it transforms into something more meaningful, a special bond that is characterized by respect, trust, friendship and shared visions and values.

There are a lot of myths about relationships that are completely false, but which are very present in people’s minds. We should be very careful ...not to let this myths discourage us...

Remember ever individual is different with different love stories.
Have a nice day.

THE LAWS OF KEEPING A WOMAN.

1) Never take a woman for granted or neglect her. The moment you do, she’ll start scanning the field and you won’t know it.

2) Do not cheat on her, or cheat her. A woman’s revenge could be emotionally lethal.

3)Do not boss her around, push her to do anything she doesn’t want to do, or force her to give you ANYTHING.

4) Do not expect her to wait on you hand and foot. She will take your foot and put it in your hand.

5) Be appreciative for all she does for you and show her appreciation for being in YOUR life. When you start acting like she should be happy she is in YOUR life, she will go out to prove you otherwise.

6) Never lay a hand on her, unless it is to caress her.

7) Never make her second to anything.This is the biggest mistake any man can do.

8) Don’t ever disrespect her or her family, even if she complains about them. It is OK for her to do it, but never for you. Remember this.

9) Always GIVE more than you take from her to stay a man in her eyes. When a woman has to support you, in her mind, you are her bitch.

10) Never treat a woman like a man, or she will treat you like a woman.

11) Be truthful to her always — even if it hurts. A woman respects a man of Truth and men that lie repeatedly will never be taken seriously — only playfully.

12) Women are like cats. Even when they play stupid, their radars are always perceptive and receptive to all that is happening around them. Do not play around your woman, or she will play you in the end.

13) Never be afraid to show a woman your emotions. Do not expect her to know how you feel if you don’t reveal anything. Never hold back on love. When a woman feels something is missing, or that you are not in the relationship 100%, she will seek a more complete love elsewhere. Believe it.

14) Support your woman’s dreams as if you were her number one fan and you will always be her number one man.

15) Push a woman to fulfill her passions, and she will always be passionate about you. Stay in tune with the developments of her hobbies and projects, and she will be in tune with you. Even if she loves her job, what you should love is the excitement from her eyes whenever you see her doing what she loves.

16) Treat your woman as if she were your precious daughter, more than you treat her as your mother — even if she is older than you. Women are like kittens. They love your attention, affection, pampering, to be spoiled, and really enjoy being showed and told new things. Remember, women will always have more options than men. They will only stay with the one who treats them best.

17) A woman typically gives a man two chances for serious error. If he messes up more than twice, it is highly unlikely there will be a third. After the second slip-up, she already sees you as a different person.

18) Always trust a woman’s intuition and never take her mind for that of a fool. If she tells you something, but then you have to go and ask for someone else’s opinion in front of her, if she was right she will never let it go. She will start taking you for the idiot. All it takes is once.

19) The same way the Sun is the lamp of the universe, your woman should always be treated as the lamp of your life.

20) Do not ever put her down in front of your friends or family. This will only make her despise your family and friends, and she won’t forget to return the favor.

21) If she loves her family, try to love them as if they were yours too. She will love you more for sincerely trying.

22) If you end up with a first-rate woman, never treat her less than first-rate. She will leave you for a first-rate man once you do.

23) Never give your woman third-rate gifts (junk, used,or second hand)  If you can’t afford to get her something first-rate, make her something from your heart, or wait until you have enough money to get her a first-rate gift. A woman would rather be given little nice gifts, rather than a bunch of junky gifts. It shows her how you see her. Believe it.she keeps the record.

24) Never let your woman stand alone when she is being opposed. Always stand by her in the presence of opposition, and when you are in private then you can tell her your real thoughts on a situation. She will love you for not exposing her out in the open. Always stand by your woman. Always! However, if she is someone who always does people wrong, then she is wrong for you. If she is good and she is the one being wronged, if you sit down or do nothing, she will be gone. Women do not like weak men. Those women that tolerate weak men are very weak women.

Treat your relationship as if you are growing the most beautiful sacred flower. Keep watering it, tend to the roots, and always make sure the petals are full of color and are never curling. Once you neglect your plant, it will die, as will your relationship. If your woman has left you heartbroken, then know it is most likely due to you violating at least one of the above. If you violated more than two, then know you had a very good woman.

Now, for women, how do you treat a man and keep him?
Do all the above for him too.
Have a nice day.

WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT RIGHT.

How do you know when your relationship is just not right? Sometimes it’s a feeling you get -- deep down, you know something’s off. But often there are telltale signs that you’re headed for splitsville. Time to read the writing on the wall.

1 you are snooping....
you’re looking through your man’s jeans pockets, hacking into his email or conveniently “glancing” at his phone, it’s probably because you’re looking for evidence of what you already know or your trust level with your guy is nonexistent. Think about it:
And don’t fool yourself into believing that spying on your guy is no big deal. “Snooping isn’t a normal part of a healthy relationship.

2 No more  sex
He used to grab your hand in the public. (or grab your bum when you were washing dishes). But these days it seems like you’re friends (without the benefits) and the sad part is you don’t even really care. “Almost all men want sex whenever they can get it -- it’s natural human behavior -- even when the rest of the relationship may not be in good standing.
“If you find he stops coming on to you and you’ve stopped engaging in lovemaking as well, it could mean he’s just not interested in you anymore, romantically. Or he’s given up trying after too many ‘no’s’.”

3 He's Always Looking At His Phone
These days most of us are obsessed with our apps, but if your guy is checking his Facebook page instead of paying attention to you over dinner, it’s a sign that he could already be checked out of the relationship. “He could be totally into someone else, and even if he’s not, you’re not his priority,“If he’s not giving you ample attention when you’re together because he’s too into his phone, then he’s not present or engaged in you or the conversation.” Before you conclude suggest he stops and see how he responds. “He may just need to learn that he’s being quite rude,

4 You Fight Dirty
All couples that have been together more than five minutes fight at some point. But when you start bickering in front of your friends and truly trying to hurt each other with your words, it’s possible that you’re on the way out. “This is a red flag that you need to get out or get serious counseling,” When people show such disrespect for one another, other feelings have trumped any feelings of love and this cycle will just continue to spiral until something major is done.” Not even into the hot makeup sex after a quarrel? That’s a sure sign that it may be time to move on.

5 You Don't Find Reasons To Dress Up Anymore
Remember the days when it took you two hours to get ready to see him or when you  Putting in the effort to look (and feel) sexy says that you are invested in your relationship. “If you think that seduction isn’t necessary, that can be very problematic,”  You also need to feel desired by him. Maintaining a relationship is work. And couples need to be open and communicative about their needs and what they can be doing to keep passion alive.” “If you have no desire to be sexy for him, then you should have a good long talk with yourself about why you’re holding back on the fun stuff,” says Allison. “It could simply mean that you’re not into him anymore.”

7 You’re Asking Other People What They Think of the RelationshiP

When you’re satisfied and confident in your relationship you don’t need outside opinions to tell you that things are going great. It’s only when you’re on shaky ground that you start polling anyone who’ll listen (girlfriends, your mom, the woman who does your nails) on what they think about your union. “If you’re not secure and confident enough to know in your heart what you need and want in a relationship, and are asking others their advice, then you should rethink things,”  “The fact that you’re asking outsiders what they think is a sign in itself that you may know the real truth about it, but are looking for reassurance about the decision you know you need to make.” Instead of rehashing the details with your bestie, it’s probably time to talk to your man about where your relationship stands.

Have a nice day and a wonderful month.