COMPLIMENTS TO GET HIS ATTENTION.

Time to make  Compliments for Guys that Are Not Too Cheesy but that Will Make Him Go Head Over Heels for You
Trust me..you ll get his attention.
So, how to find compliments to give a guy? How to make a compliment so that it won't be too obvious, but it will be obvious enough?

1. You are so handsome!

You might think that this is a cliche, but men aren't as often complimented as women so this compliment guys really has an effect on them. Some women might tell men that they are cute or hot, but saying that they are handsome is more elegant and it also adds a hint of intimacy to the conversation. The truth is that people don't use the word handsome as often as they used to, so men really notice it when they hear it. Telling someone that they are handsome means a lot more than being hot or cute. It's not only about their physical appearance and this is why it is one of the best compliments for a guy.

2. Wow, you really are hitting the gym!

Although men wish to be handsome, they also want to be manly and by their book this means that they have to hit the gym. So, when it comes to what men want to hear, you should make sure they know how much you appreciate all their efforts. If you start going to the gym, you'd like people to notice it as well, right? The same goes for men. After all, they are mostly doing it for women. If you notice it and let them know that you like the changes, you will motivate them to keep working. Actually, you are doing them a favor since exercise is good for their health. All in all, some of the compliments for a guy will ensure that they will have a healthy life (and it's all because of you).

3. You can always make me smile!

If you are thinking about complimenting a guy, you should consider what men find important. It is no secret that they like to make women laugh and you should appreciate the fact that they are trying. The fact that you tell him he can plant a smile on your face even when you're having a bad day means that he is doing a good job as a man. Also make sure to smile after complimenting him to increase the effect of the compliment. This will make him feel better about himself and you can be sure that he will keep trying to make you smile. This means that it is a win-win situation.

4. I feel safe with you!

Men, by their nature feel like they have to protect the people (especially the women) around them. Just because they don't have to hunt anymore or wrestle beasts, it doesn't mean that they wouldn't. When looking for compliments guys like to hear, this is always a safe bet. Men just love to protect damsels in distress and the fact that you say it out loud will make him feel like the man he always wanted to be. This refers to a lot more than just his physical strength; it's also about his personality and the fact that he assumes the role of your protector. You should let him protect you or save you from time to time, even if you don't think you need protection. This is one of the best ways to compliment a guy.

5. Girls can't keep their eyes off you

It is simply obvious why this compliment made it to our list of compliments for guys. Just like you enjoy having men look at you, men like to be "checked out" by women as well. Again, it's not only the fact that women are looking at him, but also that you say it out loud. It makes it all more real for him. It gives reassurance that it's not only him, but women are actually looking at him in a way that others notice as well. Although usually this is something that women don't like and don't want men to notice, if you come clean about it, you will get some extra points for your courage. After such a compliment there will be no more reason to be looking for cute compliments for guys ? he will only have eyes for you.

6. I love how driven you are

In case you are looking for ways to compliment a guy, you should let him know that you believe in him. Men need a woman who supports them. If you tell him that you believe in him, he will feel like a superhero and he will think that he can do anything. You could also say things like it is just normal people want to work with him because of his amazing abilities, or that he has accomplished so much already, or that it is just normal that he got that new job because he is great at what he does.

7. I am proud of you

If you have been with someone for some time now, you should let them know that you are proud of them. Use these words to compliment a guy and you can be sure that your compliment won't go unnoticed. This tells them a lot more than you love them or that you trust them.

If you are flirting, you could be looking for funny compliments for guys, but if you are serious about your compliment, these are the ones you should be thinking about.

8. I can't contain my laughter when I'm around you

Not only is he making you smile, but he has an impeccable sense of humor you simply adore. Guys really appreciate when they know their sense of humor is well-accepted. Especially by a cute girl like you.

Remember how devastated Chandler felt when Monica told him how funny a guy at her restaurant was? Funny guys take great pride in the fact that they're fun. Take that away from him and he'll feel intimidated.

There's only one thing you shouldn't do: Force it. Don't feel obliged to compliment his humor if you don't get it or if you don't like that kind of humor. If such things don't come naturally to you, that's okay. There are probably other things out there you really like about him.

9. Your friends are really great

Now you're being smooth there. Such witty compliments for guys can take you a long way with him. We all know that introducing your date to your friends is really a means of testing. He can maybe try and fool you, but he will rarely try and fool an entire group of people. The same goes in the other direction.

If you've met his friends and hung around with them for some time now, you can be pretty sure they've told him what they think about you, and that may or may not affect how he feels about you. Still, this is a two-way street, and your positive comment about them can only be a huge plus.

His choice of friends in a way describes him, so you're basically complimenting all of them at the same time.

10. Tired is looking really good on you

When it comes to funny compliments for guys, you have to know how to pull them off. And one thing you definitely need is the right timing. Because, well, ironic comments like this one, can't be just included in any conversation, right.

But they can be pulled of in situations where your significant other is actually tired and what you want to do is at least try to make him smile and show your concern. It can be well accompanied by a pleasant gesture like making a cup of coffee or offering a backrub.
  Try this compliments.i can bet you l get his attention.
Best of  luck.

HER ACTION SPEAKS MORE.

LOVE ....The word is far too quickly used in new relationships and often still repeated even after all the love is gone.

But saying you love someone doesn’t mean you actually do. Just because someone says they love you doesn’t mean they actually do. How is a man to know if a woman is telling him the truth? Thankfully, her actions tell the real story. When her actions match her words, her love is true. When they don’t, it is fair to question.

Here are common actions from women who aren’t in love:

1. She won’t talk to you. Many women open up their lives for those they love. They desire to be known and a key element to being known is through telling our story. Husbands often misunderstand this about wives. When she is telling you about her day, she isn’t just reciting facts. She is letting you into her heart. When a woman reduces communication with a man, it’s a sign that she doesn’t love him.

2. She won’t sacrifice for you. Few things are as sacrificial as a woman in love. Look at a mom with her newborn–her love causes her to never question her sacrifice. So it is when a woman loves a man. She sacrifices for him (just as he should sacrifice for her). While many women could do better to be a little more “selfish” about their time and dreams, when a woman refuses to sacrifice for a man, it’s a clear sign she doesn’t love him. She might enjoy him. She might be using him. But she isn’t loving him.

3. She doesn’t admire you. Women can have a parental love for those they don’t respect, but they can’t have a romantic love without admiration. They can lust after someone who isn’t admirable, but they can not love him. Women respect those they love. I often see this played out in a negative way in marriages when a woman loses respect for her husband because of laziness or poor choices. In those situations, her love can quickly fade.If a woman doesn’t admire you, she doesn’t love you.

4. She doesn’t honor your mom/family. Men do not operate well when they are caught between their mom and their significant other. Men want both women happy. While not every mother or family deserves total respect, a woman in love will honor your mom just for being your mom. She might disagree with your mother’s decisions or not appreciate aspects of her personality, but she will do her best to honor the woman you call mom. She will also honor your family. Within proper boundaries, she will do her part because of her love for you. If a woman won’t honor your family, she probably won’t honor you.

5. She won’t put you above her friends. It’s been said that when a woman enters into a serious relationship, she loses 1-2 friends. Why? Because there is only so much time a person can give. Friendship requires quality and quantity time together1. Women (and men) need good relationships outside of dating or marriage, but those relationships must come second to the one they love. When a woman continually chooses her friends over you, it’s a sign she doesn’t love you.

Early in a relationship, a woman is under no obligation to love you. As a matter of fact, if she falls in love too quickly with you, I would run.

However, there comes a time in which she must decide if she is in or out of the relationship. In those moments, she can say a lot of things, but whether or not she loves you will be defined more by her actions than her words.

GET INSPIRED. ...

Love can make you happier than you've ever been, sadder than you've ever been, angrier than you've ever been. It can elate you and deflate you almost at the same time. Hey..I hope you get inspired.
My favorite  quotes. ..

1 The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.”
— Robert C Dodds

2 When a wife has a good husband it is easily seen in her face.”
— Goethe

3 My husband and I have never considered divorce… murder sometimes, but never divorce.”
— Joyce Brothers

4 “My advice to you is to get married. If you find a good wife, you’ll be happy; if not, you’ll become a philosopher.”
— Socrates

5 Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.”
— Simone Signoret

6 “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche

7 A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”
— Robert Quillen

8. In my house I’m the boss, my wife is just the decision maker.”
— Woody Allen

9 As for his secret to staying married: ‘My wife tells me that if I ever decide to leave, she is coming with me.'”
— Jon BonJovi

10 “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”
Theodore Hesburgh

11 No man was ever shot by his wife while doing the dishes.”
— Unknown

12 Happily ever after is not a fairy tale. It’s a choice.”
-Fawn Weave

13 Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”
-Franklin P. Jone

14  People stay married because they want to, not because the doors are locked.”
-Paul Newman

15 An ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband.
Booth Tarkington

16 There is no remedy for love but to love more.”
– Henry David Thoreau

17 Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”
– Ursula K. Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven

18  great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
– Dave Meurer

19. ’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
– Marilyn Monroe

20 Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”
– Zelda Fitzgeral

I hope one other this quotes inspire you
Do have a nice day

ARE YOU A FATHER OR DAD???

Key difference: A father is the male parent of the child; its progenitor. They share DNA with the child, but he may or may not share responsibility in the child’s growth and development. Dad is a term of affection and familiarity. Dad is someone who actively participates in the child’s growth and development.

There is a saying: "Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy".

While in definition, both terms mean the same, their implications have changed over the years. A father is the male parent of the child; its progenitor. Traditional roles of a father dictate that fathers act in a protective, supportive and responsible way towards their children. Fathers who are active in the children’s lives play a role in how the children grow up. They have an impact on the child’s behavior, psychology and their development.

However, not all fathers are active in the children’s lives. There are many fathers who believe that once the child is born, their role is over. Of course, they are still the child’s father, as they do share DNA with the child, but they do not share responsibility in the child’s growth and development. He might pay the bills on time, he might supply the food and money, and he might provide for the family. However, if he does not even know his children, know their likes and dislikes, or what is going on with them, at school or personally, chances are the children will not consider him to be their dad.

Dad is a term of affection and familiarity. Dad is someone who actively participates in the child’s growth and development. A dad fulfills all the responsibilities associated with the role, personal as well as societal and cultural. The dad may or may not be the biological father. He may be the adoptive father, the step-father, or just a nurturing male figure in the child’s life, such as grandfathers and uncles, cousins and big brothers, family friends, who fulfill some of the father’s responsibilities.

Research shows that an increased amount of father–child involvement may help increase a child's social stability, educational achievement, and their potential to have a solid marriage as an adult. The children may also be more curious about the world around them and develop greater problem solving skills. So, even if fathers fulfill monetary responsibilities, they do not give the child these abilities. They do not fulfill their responsibilities to the child.

Dads are the one who are there for the child, when they need them, in good times and bad. They are the ones who will stay up with the child, the one who will attend the child’s games and team practices. They are the ones who will take the children out for a holiday, teach them to ride a bike, drive a car and give them away at their marriage. They provide guidance, an open ear and a caring heart

The main difference between a father and a dad is that father is biological; however a dad’s relationship is emotional. Fathering is an act of nature, while, being a dad is all about nurture. It is much easier to become a father, many even do it unintentionally; however, it is much harder to commit to becoming a dad.

Still, these terms are subjective, depending on the usage in the family. A child may call the father a dad, despite not having a caring or nurturing relationship. Likewise, a child may call her father, ‘father’ at least in front of friends and family, despite him being the best father. Personal experience with these terms may vary. Some may not even call their father, father or dad. They may have some other name or nickname, such as Da, Pa, Papa, Dada, etc. Some may even call their stepfathers by name, even though they may have a dad-child relationship.
 
Are u a FATHER OR A DAD?
have a nice day

YOU CAN BE A LADIES MAN.

There are men who seem to have the magic when they are around women. While many men are struggling to succeed in dating women, there are men who attract women like magnet. Men who are women magnet are the envy of guys who find it hard to succeed in dating women. Did you know that the magnetism of those men can be obtained by any guy? Any man can transform into a ladies man and get out of their bad luck with women. Discover what it takes to transform into a ladies man.

To transform into a ladies man, you have to get noticed. Before you could attract women, you should know how to make your presence felt by everyone around you. A ladies man is someone who enters a room and be able to capture the attention of people around him. To get noticed, it is important to always know the proper clothes to wear and know what fits you well. Experimenting and developing a style that perfectly fits your personality can be very helpful. Maintaining a good posture and being in good shape can make heads turn. No, you do not have to dress like movie stars and be as sexy as ramp models but you just have to be pleasant-looking, confident with your looks and know how to handle yourself. Physical appearance is important to get your foot in the door, so to get noticed by women, you need to be pleasant-looking.

To transform into a ladies man, you have to treat women like ladies. Some men may think gestures like opening a door and pulling a chair for her are old-fashioned, cheesy and corny but it will surprise you that most women love the old-fashioned way. Women like to be treated like ladies or princesses. A real ladies man treats a woman as if she is the center of his universe and that she is like a breakable glass that must be handled with utmost care.

To transform into a ladies man, you have to live life passionately. Living a routine life is not bad but if you want to live life passionately you have to do something better than living a routine life. If you will just do the same things everyday, you are limiting yourself and avoiding great opportunities like gaining new experiences, meeting new people (including women of course) and creating relationships. Get out of your routine life, live passionately and become the best version of yourself. A man who is living life withpassion is an attractive man. Learn new hobbies, travel, meet new people, volunteer in the community, learn a new language, read a good book, etc. There are so many things you can do to live life passionately and in the process become an irresistibly attractive man.

To transform into a ladies man, you have to know how to make women laugh. You do not have to be a comedian but if you naturally love to make other people laugh and want them to feel good, you are an irresistible guy. Women will always remember how you make them laugh even when you are not around and will always look forward to spend more time with you.

To transform into a ladies man, you must have self-confidence. Men who are confident, secured, in control of themselves and self-sufficient are really attractive. Not everyone believes in their worth and have self-confidence so when you come off as confident, you will appear as a strong person who believes in your capabilities and can take care of the people in your life. This trait is what most women are looking for in a man. They do not want a man full of insecurities and do not know his worth.

Any man can be attractive because attracting women is a skill that can be learned.

Have a nice day.

YOU ARE HIS SIDE CHICK NOT THE MAIN BABE.

Babe do you know you may actually be the side  chick yet thinking you re the number one in his life...wake up sis...let's find out ...
This what they do

A They turn their phone off around you – Of course, because you don’t want to hear “will you be my wifey” blasting from his sidekick when the real boo calls.

B They Never Answer Their Phones – The reverse applies…don’t want you calling around the boo and the kids.

C  No Dates – Digiorno and Netflix are part of the best date..or africa magic..he never wanna go out with you to public places.  He prefers you watch music videos together..lol..are you a producer?

D You Haven’t Met The Homies – Self-explanatory. You don’t come around then yeah…no dice..he can't let you meet them..no way.

E  You Don’t Come Around The Crib – You don’t want to see the pics of the family around, do you? So the rendezvous happens at your place all the time.wake up babe..

F They’re Not On Facebook – Harder to get caught up if you’re not on Facebook.he s not dumb like you

G Pictures Get Untagged – You try to tag your boo but those tweets and messages get deleted? Yup.wake up dear.

H You Get Shade And You Don’t Know Why –When other women start insulting pr gossip about you and you have no clue where it came from, it may be because they re wondering  why you're so cheap and bitch to be a side chick..lol..not your fault. ..you don't know you are.

I Lots Of Out Of Town Trips – Surefire way to not get caught? You’re always traveling. Always.dont mix it up..it's not because he loves you or wanna take you on trips..he s playing sage not to get caught..lol

J Common Phrases – “Let’s keep this between us…” “I’m a private person…” beware!lol...tell him your private part is also private....

Half a word is enough for the wise
You re too good to be a side chick..

AFTER THE BREAK UP THEN YOU WAKE UP.

I don’t like it when some people think that just because your relationship only lasted a couple of months you should hurt less than if the relationship had been longer. Again, pain is pain. No one has the right to judge it, put limits on it, or qualify it.
Break up is break up..but then..is it the end of the world? NO AND NO wake up

1. The sun still shines.

Life isn’t ending. Every day you wake up and there is a new day with new people waiting for you to have new experiences. The sun still rises and the sun still sets, life isn’t over and you can’t keep acting like it is. Trust me, life has just begun.

2. There are 7 billion people in the world.

You’re going to let ONE ruin your day? Ruin your mood? There are too many different people in this world who can change your life in so many different positive ways to let one negative, sad excuse for a soul disrupt how much you enjoy everyday life.

3. He isn’t worth it.

No man should ever make you sad. Yeah, they make you angry, they disappoint you, they confuse you but none should ever make you sad. And men who do? Really aren’t worth it. He fooled you, he played you like a fiddle but it’s his loss. Just think about all the men out there waiting to make you happy instead. This stupid one is definitely not worth it.

4. He’s a jerk.

If you’re not worth his time, why should he even be worth your thoughts? Face it, if he “doesn’t know” if he wants you, he’s probably got another girl wrapped around him helping him figure it out or he’s just making sure you don’t move on first. People go after what they want.

5. He’s got a rock for a heart and you don’t.

You love. And that’s good. Loving with all of your heart is something to be proud of. Who cares if you spent that love on the wrong person for a little while? One day someone is not only going to deserve all that love but also know how to handle it AND love you the same way. How awesome will that be?

6. You’re pretty.

WELL, YOU ARE. And pretty girls don’t cry (in public). You’re beautiful, inside and out. You can’t blame yourself or judge yourself based on someone else’s actions. You have to know that this happened for a reason. You, you pretty girl you, you deserve better. You deserve to smile. You deserve to have fun and you deserve someone who enhances your life. Not someone who brings you down.

7. You’re probably remembering the past much better than it actually was.

Life is great and the relationship you guys had might have been too. But in reality, how great could it have been if it led you to where you are right now? It’s okay to see the good but don’t ignore the bad. Your future is going to be
INCREDIBLE, with or without Mr. Awful.

8. You’re bigger than all of this.

You have so much going for you. Focus on the people in your life who encourage you to reach those goals and fill your life with endless support and positive energy in whatever it may be. Those are the people who will be there for you, by your side through the good and the bad. Those are the people who are going to love you no matter what. Those are the people who make everything okay.

9. I really don’t know for sure.

I can’t convince you with just 8 reasons that life goes on and you deserve to be happy. It’s up to you. You have to wake up every single morning and decide to be happy or decide to do something about not being happy. Life is about going after what you want, realizing what and who is truly important and living each second to the fullest. So take a chance. Dye your hair, eat that chocolate bar, skip class and go to the beach, talk to that guy at the bar. Do something crazy.

Because whether or not it works out, whether or not you know exactly where you’re supposed to be in life right now… I can promise that in the end, you are going to be more than okay..trust me.
Have a lovely day.

HE 'S NOT READY TO PROPOSE

Hi 
Happy sunday. Every woman dreams of having a ring on her finger, right?! Long-term relationships are typically the pathway to marriage and beyond. However, not all men have marriage on their mind, at least not without some pushing and prodding.   here are signs he s not ready to propose at all..

  1 When a guy is ready to propose, he will definitely become much more tolerant of going to weddings. If your guy still hates going to weddings, that’s a sign he isn’t ready for his own. Your man’s feelings towards weddings will say a lot about the future of a ring on your finger.

2  When you bring up the topic of marriage, he quickly changes the topic. Or when you do ask him a question about getting engaged and eventually getting married, he gives you a short answer just to shut you up. A man will bring up the topic of marriage when he is truly ready

3 .Your guy has priorities, but marriage definitely isn’t one of them. While he likes having you at his side, he still loves living the life of a bachelor. Marriage to him means being tied down, so there’s an unlikely chance that a ring is coming in the near future

4 While you’ve introduced him to your parents and your siblings, he’s yet to reciprocate. You may know his parents’ names and maybe you’ve said hello over the phone, but you have not met them face-to-face. This is a huge sign that he’s not ready for anything more than what you two already have.

5 Aside from his own future plans that lack you, he has no true interest in hearing what your plans are. When you bring up your future, he seems completely uninterested in what you have planned. When he has no interest in your future plans, he definitely isn’t looking to propose and build a future together.

6 Guys will usually only invest in an engagement ring when they know they are financially well off. If your man doesn’t make a lot of money, that’s fine, there’s always time to make more. However, if your guy has no interest in making more money by getting a better job or trying for a raise, don’t expect a ring.

7 He tells you you’re beautiful. He always praises you on how smart you are or how well you cook. But, the one thing he won’t do is compliment you and include himself. He’s never said that he’s happy or lucky to have you. Or how much better of a life he has now that you’re in it.

8 In many guy’s heads, a family will come once you two are married. However, if he’s yet to discuss children or having a family with you, he may not be willing to put a ring on your finger anytime soon. Until the topic comes up, don’t expect any bling

9 When the topics of getting engaged, marriage, or the future come up, he always has an excuse. He’s too busy and stressed to talk about it. There’s something important on T.V. He has too much going on to focus on buying a ring. Whatever the excuse is, it’s usually a bad one.

10 Your man prefers to hang out with single guys as opposed to people who are married. He wants to surround himself with happy bachelors instead of having friends that talk about their wives. Right now he’s content living a life without the worry of marriage

Dear if all this signs ..you do note in him..pls start thinking of what to.do..he s not ready at all...and time won't wait for you

Radioqueen at 23:16

HOW TO MAKE HER MISS YOU.

Hey guys.
      Do you want her to miss you badly?
Here are secrets that ll help but will only work if you  truly love her

1 Be Funny

A woman can never forget a guy who made her smile and laugh. Nowadays, women are more drawn to men with wit and humor. The act of instilling positive vibes and feelings not only to her but also to the people around you would really catch her heart. If you want to know how to make her miss you, you have to find her sweet spot and crack her out of her comfort zone. However, remember to be sensitive as well. When you are able to do these things, she will surely miss you and look for you when you are not around.

2 Be interesting

If you can pick a woman’s brain and make her think about a lot of things, you would surely be someone whom she would like to be around with more often. When you challenge her mind, she would want to get to the bottom of things and would not let you go until she has found the answer. The key to this is to find something that she likes and ask her questions about it. When she realizes that you are someone who she can talk to about anything, she will definitely look for you when you are not within sight.

3Fill her mind every day

If you are wondering how to make her miss you, you should try filling her mind every day. Do things that would truly leave a positive impact on her each day. This may mean inviting her to do activities that she has never tried before or making sure that every minute you spend together is filled with fun and excitement. Even when you have slowed down for a while, she will be the one who will be looking for an adventure for the both of you.

4Stand out among other guys

In order for her to miss you, you have to make sure that there is something that you can offer that other guys can’t. Make her feel different when she is with you. You have to know what she cares for and is passionate about. Ask her about her interests and make her feel that you really care for her. See past her flaws and focus on her whole personality. A lot of guys only go for the looks, but you should make her feel that you are more interested in her personality. Keep in mind that this will only work if you truly are interested in her.

5Remember the little details

Every person has his own quirks and habits. If you are curious of how to make her miss you, you have to be the guy that remembers all the little details about your woman. It may not mean much to you at first but you would soon realize that nothing moves a woman more than the gesture of remembering every little thing about her. These little things serve as proof that you pay attention to everything that she does.

6Follow a “routine” and go against it

This may mean a little harsh but it would let you know if your woman what your woman truly feels about you. After creating a habit loop for some time, your woman has become conditioned and can already predict what you are going to do next. Give things some twist by going against the routine. This will puzzle her and would make her wonder what happened. However, do this only for a short time as she might mistake it for playing games.

7Be a little mysterious

Pique her interest by not revealing too much of yourself at once. Play a little mystery every once in a while. Make her be the one to approach you and know more about you. When you inject a little bit of mystery in your relationship, you will make her feel that she is missing out on something and she would then be the one to seek you out.

8Surprise her

Every once in a while, go out of your normal routine. Think of all the things that she has been bugging you with that you never had the time to manage. When she least expects it, treat her to this interest of hers and see her emotions go wild. This will make her realize how you truly care for her and her happiness. Events like these would become truly memorable for both of you and would make her miss you every time she looks back at these moments.

9Take some time out

If you want to know how to make her miss you, one good option is to take some time out and give yourself some space. If you always spend time together, you would be too focused on each other and would tend to forget other things outside your relationship. If you let her and yourself have some time out, you would both appreciate what it feels like to have each other. When this happens, both of you would look forward to seeing each other again and spending time again.

10Take the lead

A woman likes it when her man knows how to take the lead. A woman likes seeing her man in control of things. This makes her more comfortable and dependent on her man. When she is so used to you leading the relationship, she will miss you when you are not around.

TIME TO ATTRACT HIM.

If you ve been having trouble attracting men and getting a date, you may be unknowingly sending vibes that push men away. Men think differently than women, so you have to understand how the male psyche works in order to get his attention. Know what to do to grab his attention.

STEP 1

Play hard to get. The worst thing you can do is to smother a guy or appear desperate. Men are attracted to the thrill of the chase, so if you're chasing after him, you're taking away the challenge. Keep it low-key and keep him on the edge of his seat. Maintain your composure. Your outward indifference may make him want you more.

STEP 2

Be mysterious. A huge part of attracting men is letting them figure you out. Don't talk his ear off about every detail of your life or your feelings. Carefully think about what you say and don't fill the conversation with idle gabbing. Also, don't make yourself available all the time. Allow him to wonder where you are and what you're doing.

STEP 3

Display intelligence and depth. Don't say "like" and "um" in every sentence. Intelligence is sexy. A smart woman who knows what she wants and how to get it will attract men everywhere she goes. Displaying your intellect reveals that you have depth. This will attract men more effectively than coming across as dim.

STEP 4

Be fun, in ways that men think are fun. This rule of attraction seems simple enough, but so many girls get it wrong. Don't be too much of a stereotypical "girl." Be able to let your hair down and tell jokes, watch sports, play video games or poker with him and try to enjoy the things that he enjoys. He's not interested in holding your purse while you shop. Nor does he care what happened on last week's episode of Days of Our Lives. Hang out at sports bars with him. He'll want you even more.

STEP 5

Take care of your appearance. A woman who takes care of herself will attract men easier than one who doesn't. Shower with nice-smelling bath products. Use a feminine scented deodorant. Brush your teeth well and always keep mints and gum on hand. If you talk to a guy and your breath is less than fresh, he's not going to notice anything else about you. Keep your hair neat and clean and take pride in your looks. Use a perfume that smells sweet and sensual.

STEP 6

Dress to kill. Dress in clothes that make you feel sexy. You don't have to look like a tramp, just keep in mind the styles that are attractive to men. Wear feminine clothing that accentuates your figure and hugs your body just right. Use the colors red or pink to your advantage; remember, men are visual.

STEP 7

Flirt with body language. Lean in close to him when you talk. Touch his hand or shoulder during conversation. Smile and be genuinely interested in what he has to say. Turn your body toward him when you two are in close proximity. Don't make these flirting techniques over-exaggerated and noticeable, however. Let your natural flirtatiousness shine
Have a nice day ....

WHEN YOU DON'T GIVE HER ATTENTION

Many men find women hard to read; but if you know the signs, you'll know exactly what your wife needs. Most of the time, she just needs some more attention from you. Here are seven ways you can know if that's the case:

1. She acts jealous

If she seems jealous of your work, friends or even other ladies, it's probably because you aren't treating her like she is your top priority. Because your spouse should be No. 1 in your life, if you are devoting less attention to her than to other people or responsibilities, she is definitely lacking attention that she deserves.

2 She stopped asking you for things

If she used to ask for your help or opinion and she doesn't anymore, she's probably grown accustomed to you not helping out very much. To fix this, ask her deep questions about her life, or what you can do for her; or just go ahead and do something for her without having to ask.

3. She's dressing to impress

If she's spending a little extra time twisting up her hair or she wears something she knows you like, she probably is doing it to catch your eye. Let her catch your eye. She needs that attention from you.or she gets the attention  elsewhere.

4. She's being nit-picky

If your wife is starting to get on your case about the small stuff more than usual, she probably is in need of your attention. If she doesn't get enough time with the real you, your annoying habits can eclipse all your goodness.

5 She tells you she misses you a lot

The most obvious way you're going to know that your wife needs more attention is if she flat-out tells you. She may miss your physical presence in her life or the close emotional relationship the two of you used to share. No matter what, if she's telling you she misses you, you need to devote more of your time to her.

6. You find out more on social media than in person

If you log into Facebook to find out what's going on with your lady, something's not right. You should know about her life before the Web does. Text or call her throughout the day so you can know what's going on with her.

7 You go to bed at different times

Both of you need the personal attention that getting ready for bed and laying in the dark waiting for sleep to come affords. If the two of you aren't going to bed at the same time, you need to make the change so you both get that time together.

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SEX IS NOT LOVE.

Dear ladies,

Sex is NOT love. Love is not
sex.
You can have sex and not be in
love. You can be in love and not
engage in sex. A man may hate
you
and still have sex with you. Be
wise.
Using sex to manipulate a man
will
eventually fail. It is self
deception to
think that giving him sex will
make
him love you. True Love will
never
force you to engage in sex. A
man
who doesn't love you will not
change his mind because of
sex. If
he tells you to ‘prove your love’
by
having sex with him. He is only
using you. If he is in it for the
sex,
‘better sex’ will take him away
from
you.
Making yourself his ‘sex slave’
is
foolish. Love will never shame
or
degrade you. If you have made
the
mistake of trying to use sex to
buy
this man, now is the time to re-
assess your relationship and
build
it on the right foundation. If he
gets
married to you because ‘the sex
is
good’, it will be fatal to your
marriage. Let him get married to
you because he loves you,
honors
you, feels a strong emotional,
mental and spiritual connection
with you and wants you to
spend
the rest of his life with you.
Don't get it twisted......
Happy weekend.

NAMES TO CALL YOUR SPOUSE

Couples don't always have to address each other on first name basis or stick to calling each other one pet name.

There are many other sweet names to call your significant other so you really don't have to run out of names

I ll share with you lists a few awesome names you can call your significant other:

1 Baby: You either love this nickname or hate it. Of course, you're not restricted to using the word by itself. You can always add on to it if you feel the need. There are tons of pet names for your significant other that begin with ‘baby.' There’s 'baby doll,' 'baby face,' and even 'baby boy.' Stick to whatever sounds best to you.

2 Darling: This is a cute and simple way to address your partner. It's similar to the name 'dear,' because it suggests that you really care about the other person. It's perfect for both a serious relationship and one that's just starting, because it's something that you could also call your close friends.

3 Honey: Honey is sweet, which is why you should use this when talking to your super sweet partner. You could also call them 'honey bun' when you want a different sounding nickname. Either way, they'll love hearing your voice say it.

4 Pumpkin: There are dozens of nicknames that involve food, so this is not your only option. You could also use the name 'pudding,' 'muffin,' or even 'cookie.' The list goes on and on. Just open up your fridge to think of some new ideas.

5 Sweetie: This nickname is self-explanatory. Use it on your partner if you believe that they're the embodiment of sweetness. They're sure to return the favor by calling you a name that's just as flattering.

6 Boo: This one has become pretty popular. If you want something simple and sexy, this is your best choice. It sounds casual, but it also suggests that you're together for the long haul.

7 Angel: If you think that your partner is perfect in every way, then this nickname should fit them perfectly. They can do no wrong, so to you, they're like a little angel.

8 Handsome: Everybody loves to be reminded of how attractive they are. If you don’t like the word 'handsome,' then you can say ‘gorgeous’ or ‘sexy.’ No matter what, it'll show your partner that you're still swooning over their looks.

9 Cutie Pie: Sometimes, it's hard to handle the adorableness of your partner. During those times, you can break out this nickname. You might not want to use it in front of his (or her) friends and embarrass them, but you can use it all you want in private.

10 Love: If your partner is the love of your life, then you might as well address them as such. You could also get more cutesy by calling them 'lover boy,' or 'love muffin.’ Anything's a possibility.

11 Wife/ Wifey: A playful way to refer to your wife.

12 Husband/ Hubby: A playful way to refer to your husband.

13 Better Half: Similar to “the other half” (above), to refer to your romantic partner as your better half is another really nice to say that they complete you, but also an endearing (and figurative) way to say that you admire this person (by saying that you they are better than you).

14 Honey/hun

This next one is a bit old-school but is still going strong.  Very casual and is often used before making a request.  “Hey hun, can you please get me a glass of water while you’re up?”

15 Love

This is an affection term people who are in love might use to address each other, only for romantic partners.

16 Dear

This is a term of affection not just for couples, but your mom also might call you “dear.” Note: just a warning, do not call strangers dear. You can use it to start a letter (i.e. “Dear Justin”) but don’t call somebody “dear” unless you have an intimate or family relationship with them.
Etc

When you call your spouse by a sappy nickname, it is a sign of affection.

Which ever name you decide to call your spouse. ..it will help to build the bind you both share..trust me on this..
Have a nice day

WHY YOU SHOULD LOVE AGAIN.

I have seen people wonder the necessity behind loving another person after a heartbreak or two. The truth is that to experience joy, you have to feel pain. Nothing great comes without some effort. And to love can be the best effort you give to someone special, to love can be a defining point in your life where and when you discover the true essence of your being and perhaps your youth.

There is nothing certain with love. It is limitless and an adventure and for these it presents to you the perfect reasons why you should love, even once again.

You owe it to your being

The true essence of man or woman is to love, to find joy and acceptance in giving another being. When you love, you see something within you that you have never seen – your vulnerability, your purity.

You can sacrifice so much

It is not about taking, it is about giving and offering so much. Sometimes it is all for nothing, but you are happy because you did what nature can proclaim right, perfect and just.

You are happy

To fall in love comes with an excitement. It makes you feel connected to another person in such a way that you have never felt before. You are happy and you are on your path to find restiveness.

You are bold

There is never one who falls in love who does not wear the coat of courage and fearlessness. With love you want to be more, you want to do more, believe more and see more.

You can hope

You hope for the best, you believe that things would work out for the best. Even if it doesn’t seem clear now, you are willing to take your chances.

You can admit someone into your world

There are no bars with love. You can admit another person in your world and let them become a part of it. the truth is that with love you find freedom, not just for yourself but for others.

You learn

You can never know love or learn what it means until you have loved. To love is a search for what is right and what is compatible or adjustable to you. the learning experience love provides you gives you the pedestal to even loving the more.

You can make the impossible possible

With love a lot of things are possible. Love changes people and make you change. Love has a way of making you see the world differently.

You can ask the right questions

It is only from love the question like will you be my wife? Or will I be spending the rest of my life with you, is born. You can only take chances of eternal commitment with another person only when you have come to love and trust that person. these things do not happen by accident. However when things are built out of love, you are willing to ask the right questions and know the truth about those things you want.

You can forgive and hold the best memories

Love may not last forever. But the memories you will keep from it, may be treasures you hold forever. Love provides some of the best memories you can think of. It gives you the opportunity to explore and discover those things you may never have been willing to do on your own. Love gives you interesting memories.

Love as much as you can. Yes you may be less willing after a decent try or two. But in those edges will you find something smooth that you will keep and treasure for the rest of your life!

THE LAWS OF KEEPING A WOMAN.

1) Never take a woman for granted or neglect her. The moment you do, she’ll start scanning the field and you won’t know it.

2) Do not cheat on her, or cheat her. A woman’s revenge could be emotionally lethal.

3)Do not boss her around, push her to do anything she doesn’t want to do, or force her to give you ANYTHING.

4) Do not expect her to wait on you hand and foot. She will take your foot and put it in your hand.

5) Be appreciative for all she does for you and show her appreciation for being in YOUR life. When you start acting like she should be happy she is in YOUR life, she will go out to prove you otherwise.

6) Never lay a hand on her, unless it is to caress her.

7) Never make her second to anything.This is the biggest mistake any man can do.

8) Don’t ever disrespect her or her family, even if she complains about them. It is OK for her to do it, but never for you. Remember this.

9) Always GIVE more than you take from her to stay a man in her eyes. When a woman has to support you, in her mind, you are her bitch.

10) Never treat a woman like a man, or she will treat you like a woman.

11) Be truthful to her always — even if it hurts. A woman respects a man of Truth and men that lie repeatedly will never be taken seriously — only playfully.

12) Women are like cats. Even when they play stupid, their radars are always perceptive and receptive to all that is happening around them. Do not play around your woman, or she will play you in the end.

13) Never be afraid to show a woman your emotions. Do not expect her to know how you feel if you don’t reveal anything. Never hold back on love. When a woman feels something is missing, or that you are not in the relationship 100%, she will seek a more complete love elsewhere. Believe it.

14) Support your woman’s dreams as if you were her number one fan and you will always be her number one man.

15) Push a woman to fulfill her passions, and she will always be passionate about you. Stay in tune with the developments of her hobbies and projects, and she will be in tune with you. Even if she loves designing tiny hats for squirrels, what you should love is the excitement from her eyes whenever you see her doing what she loves.

16) Treat your woman as if she were your precious daughter, more than you treat her as your mother — even if she is older than you. Women are like kittens. They love your attention, affection, pampering, to be spoiled, and really enjoy being showed and told new things. Remember, women will always have more options than men. They will only stay with the one who treats them best.

17) A woman typically gives a man two chances for serious error. If he messes up more than twice, it is highly unlikely there will be a third. After the second slip-up, she already sees you as a different person.

18) Always trust a woman’s intuition and never take her mind for that of a fool. If she tells you something, but then you have to go and ask for someone else’s opinion in front of her, if she was right she will never let it go. She will start taking you for the idiot. All it takes is once.

19) The same way the Sun is the lamp of the universe, your woman should always be treated as the lamp of your life.

20) Do not ever put her down in front of your friends or family. This will only make her despise your family and friends, and she won’t forget to return the favor.

21) If she loves her family, try to love them as if they were yours too. She will love you more for sincerely trying.

22) If you end up with a first-rate woman, never treat her less than first-rate. She will leave you for a first-rate man once you do.

23) Never give your woman third-rate gifts (junk, used, discounted, as is, tacky). If you can’t afford to get her something first-rate, make her something from your heart, or wait until you have enough money to get her a first-rate gift. A woman would rather be given nice gifts, rather than a bunch of junky gifts. It shows her how you see her. Believe it.

24) Never let your woman stand alone when she is being opposed. Always stand by her in the presence of opposition, and when you are in private then you can tell her your real thoughts on a situation. She will love you for not exposing her out in the open. Always stand by your woman. Always! However, if she is someone who always does people wrong, then she is wrong for you. If she is good and she is the one being wronged, if you sit down or do nothing, she will be gone. Women do not like weak men. Those women that tolerate weak men are very weak women.

Treat your relationship as if you are growing the most beautiful sacred flower. Keep watering it, tend to the roots, and always make sure the petals are full of color and are never curling. Once you neglect your plant, it will die, as will your relationship. If your woman has left you heartbroken, then know it is most likely due to you violating at least one of the above. If you violated more than two, then know you had a very good woman.

Now, for women, how do you treat a man and keep him?
Do all the above for him too.
Have a nice day.

LIVE A HAPPY LIFE.

Hey..it's been quiet a while ...hope you re doing just fine? Today I ll share with you simple tips that can help you to live a happy and fulfilled  life.

1 Take a 10-30 minute walk every day and while you walk, smile.

  2Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

  3When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, “My purpose is to … today.”

 4Live with the 3 E’s: Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy, and the 3 F’s: Faith, Family, Friends.

5 Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.

7 Dream more while you are awake.

8 Try to make at least three people smile each day.

9 Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn, pass all your tests. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

 10 Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.

  11Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
 Life is too short to waste time hating anyone
.
 12 Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

 13 You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagreements
.
14 Make peace with your past, so it won’t mess up the present.

15 Don’t compare your life with others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

16 Burn the candles, use the nice sheets. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

17 No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

18 Forgive everyone for everything.

19 What other people think of you is none of your business.

 20Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

 21However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

 22Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will stay in touch.

 23Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful, or joyful.

 24The best is yet to come… Believe.

 25 No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.

 26 Do the right thing!

 27 Call your family often.

 28 Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: “I am thankful for…” – “Today I accomplished…”

 29 Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

 30 Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast pass. Make the most of it and enjoy the ride.

Do have a lovely day.

HOW TO KEEP HIM.UNDER YOUR LOVE.

1. Call him by a pet name

2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the
family.

3. DO not challenge him when he is hurt
.
4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment with apology n explain why you
behave that way that annoyed him.

5. Be quick to say "I'm sorry dear" when ever you
offend him, insist on his forgiveness,appreciate and kiss him when he does.

6. Speak good of him before his Friends and siblings.

7. Honor his mother

8. Insist that he buys gift for his parents and so be
sure that he will do same for your parents

9. Surprise him with his favorite dish especially when
he has no money at hand and never delay his food.

10. Do not allow the maid to serve him food when you are at home. Because u may lose him to her.

11. Give him a warm reception with an embrace when
he returns, collect his luggage and help undress him.

12. Smile when you look at him and give him
occasional pecks when you are out socially.

13. Praise him before your children sometimes.

14. Wash his back while he is in the tub or shower.

15. Put love note in his lunch box or briefcase.

16. Phone and tell him that you miss him.

17. Dial his number and on hearing "hello" just tell him
I love you.

18. If he is a public figure or a  politician,  gently wake him at the early hours of the morning and romance him to the point of demand. He will not be entice by any
other woman that day.

19. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as your
husband.

20. Give him a hug for no reason.

21. Appreciate God for the Adam of your life.

22. Always remember to pray for him.

23. Pray together and also pray together before going to bed in the evening...
May God bless your marriages.
Singles may you experience true love today and forever.

May non-serious people that will  waste your time be disconnected in your life In Jesus Name .
Have a nice day

MY OPEN LETTER TO MEN.

Dear married and courting men who are taking your wives and girlfriends for granted,

I wanted to share something that’s been on my heart.

I am writing this as a warning to you, out of love. And no, contrary to what I’m sure someone is going to assume, it’s not a hint to my man or based on any recent happenings in my life.

Now, I know that men and women are different, so I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that on some level, you do not know what you are doing. After this, you cannot say you had no idea.

Your wife or your girlfriend, sir, in case you have forgotten, is a gift to be treasured, loved, and appreciated. She is not a mat to trample, a maid you employed to clean your house and cook for your siblings, or a rag to wipe up your mess. I think it’s time we sat down and established a few home truths.

*Random: I’m not sure how grammatically correct the “Just because” way of saying things is, but it seems to be legit, and it’s convenient for this, so I’ll use it.*

1) Just because she makes time for you doesn’t mean she has all the time in the world. Unmarried men, you might think that the hour-long conversations, hourly texts, and looking great for every date is something that she just rolls and flows into. Married men, you might think that your meals being cooked every day, having a clean home to go to, and children who look neat and have clean noses are things that every man has. But this is untrue. Your woman takes her time to look good for you, be there for you, and do what you want. Don’t get it twisted; she could be doing so many other things with her time, but she’s set a chunk of it aside for you, because she treasures you. Even the Lord knows this, and tells women who want to serve Him to remain single: A woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. – 1 Corinthians 7:34, NLT.

2) Just because you don’t make time for her doesn’t mean nobody will. When you started out, you listened, wined, dined, you even shared your innermost feelings with her. And somewhere along the way, you decided to let that get old. Well, rest assured that when you start to take her for granted, she’ll slowly start to close up – to you. She will find someone to open up to – whether it’s a sibling, friend, or another man is not the issue. The issue is, that’s when you’ll begin to lose her. If she’s not expressing herself to you and not demonstrating any discomfort with that, then ask yourself some questions, because something is not right.

3) Just because she hasn’t said anything doesn’t mean she hasn’t seen or felt anything. If you’re cheating, she probably knows. 99% of the time, if you are with a good woman who is sane and not paranoid, her God-given intuition will rat you out as soon as she takes one look at you. She will know when she shakes your co-worker’s hand if anything has happened between the two of you. She may not say anything about it. But she knows, and she’s just figuring out her next move. A woman who has been or is being cheated on always knows. And a woman who prays probably gets frequent intelligence reports from the One who sees and knows all. Be sure your sin will find you out – Numbers 32:23.

4) Just because you don’t appreciate her doesn’t mean someone else won’t. If you are with a godly woman, then there are tons of men out there who would give everything to be with her. If you don’t realize how privileged you are to be in her presence and in her life, someone else is waiting eagerly to step into your shoes. She may be at the bottom of your priority list, or she might not even be on your priority list, but rest assured she’s at the top of someone else’s. If you’re not the first and last person who tells her she’s beautiful every day, someone will fill that gap, and we both know whoever fills the emotional need carries the day. If you insist on her looking good but have never paid for a single item in her closet, or if you consistently criticize her even when she’s trying so hard, then check yourself.

5) The woman you’re cheating on her with, if you’re cheating, will NEVER measure up to her. And if you keep up the foolery, you’ll realize it one day when it’s too late. Here’s a clue: this woman is helping you cheat. That in itself lowers her credibility. Is that worth risking your reputation, career, self-worth, and walk with the Lord? Can a man take fire to his bosom, and not be burned? No woman will ever measure up to your wife. It’s never the same. If you’ve got it good, don’t throw it away. If the grass looks greener on the other side, grab a sprinkler and water your lawn, because like the saying goes, the neighbor’s might be fertilized by a sewer underneath it.

6) Just because she never says she wants anything, or just because she says she does not want anything, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do or buy anything. One day, when you get to hear the horror stories from men who pay rent, buy clothes, and put gas in cars belonging to women they are not even engaged to as a requirement for peace in their relationships; one day when you hear about husbands who leave home early and get home late so that they can maintain the expectations of their wives, then you will see just how blessed you are to have a woman who does not make ridiculous demands.

7) Just because she chose you, doesn’t mean she thinks you’re perfect. At first, the rush from the realization that you “bagged a good one” will get you to treat her right. But after a while, you get used to the beauty, choose to see the character as commonplace, and basically forget that your life has been graced by the presence of a jewel… and that it could slip through your fingers at any time. Well, this woman could have chosen any man in the world, but she chose you. That doesn’t mean you can act any old kind of way. If you act a fool, she will get tired of your foolery one day.

8) If the words “I’ll leave you” ever escape from her lips, take note. They might not sound threatening, and they’re not supposed to be. But they are serious. And for her to get to the point where she actually says it out loud simply means she has one foot out the door and the other on a banana peel. Women are strong. Very strong. You might push certain buttons once, twice… a hundred times, but there is a limit. Realize what you did just before she mouthed these dangerous words, and correct it.

9) You “need” her more than she “needs” you. I’m not a feminist, nor have I ever been one. And I’m not even great at math. But if the woman was created because the man needed help, then there is something that woman has that a man cannot do without. You need her prayers, her support, her input, her womb. She needs you, too, of course, but she was created for you. Now, if you want to think God took the time to put Adam out, perform surgery, take out his rib, and fashion a woman just because, then that’s your prerogative, but I put it to you that if you mistreat the woman that God brought to you, there will be repercussions and there will be regret.

10) Just because she’s saved doesn’t mean she doesn’t hurt. The fact that she stays doesn’t mean she can’t – or won’t – leave. She has options. Especially if there are no rings. And even with a hundred rings there are some options, few and far between though they be, for which the Word of God backs her up. Don’t you ever forget that.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor from the Lord. Remember that you prayed for this gift, and know that the Giver is watching…
Have a wonderful time.
Happy father's day in advance

YOU ARE A BAD FRIEND.

You might think of yourself as a good, maybe even a great one, but if you recognise at least four of these traits in yourself then we hate to tell you but you're a bad friend. Sort your shit out.

You consider yourself superior

You think you're richer, smarter, funnier and better looking and they are lucky to be your friend

You call them only when you need to talk about something

You frequently silence calls from them because 'you're busy' or 'it's just not a good time', but you never hesitate to pick up the phone and call them when you have a problem or you're just pissed off and you need a rant.

You don't really care about what they have to say

You find yourself zoning out of conversations when they're speaking. They're telling a story or explaining something and you can't help but drift off and think of that pair of shoes you need to get your hands on.

You're not supportive

They've decided to start a new venture, or they're taking up pilates... You find yourself scoffing at the thought of it.

 

You flirt with people they like

Your friend might like them, but this person clearly fancies you. It's not your fault if flirting is your natural state and more people are attracted to you, is it?

You borrow but you don't lend

So your friend makes more money than you, or they just have more money in general. Maybe they have better clothes or their fridge is always full - so it's okay to take from them.

You're an opportunist

You don't call them or return their calls for weeks but they put up a status saying 'got 4 tickets to the premier of Anchorman' and you jump on a tex

You're always the victim

If you ever have an argument, you're always the one that's hard done by and you make sure they know it. Whether it's tears or violence or emotional blackmail, you come out on top with them saying sorry.

You have a tendency to be clingy

You talk about them behind their back

One of your favourite topics is them. Their fashion sense, their family, their relationship, their sex life. You have something to say on them all.

You judge their choices

They dropped out of College and you think they're an idiot for it. They dyed their hair and you think they look like a fool. They slept with 5 different people last month and you think that's disgusting.

You're jealous of their other friends

You find yourself disliking their work friends or their old school friends or their new college friends. You can't really put your finger on why, you just think they're a pack of morons.

You're flaky 

You make plans to meet up for coffee but you always cancel. You have a night out organised but you're too hungover to show up. You're supposed to go to their families house for dinner but you go on the piss instead.

You can't keep a secret

It's just too juicy not to be told. They told you in confidence but fuck it right? whoever you tell won't tell anyone, they promise.

You take a small amount of pleasure when something doesn't work out for them

You knew their little venture wouldn't work out, you told them so. You were right. Like always.

If you want to have good friends  around you..you have to be a good friend  too.
Have a nice day.

YOU DON'T NEED TO IMPRESS ANYONE.

Sometimes we try to show the world we are flawless in hopes that we will be liked and accepted by everyone, but we can’t please everyone and we shouldn’t try.  The beauty of us lies in our vulnerability, our complex emotions, and our authentic imperfections.  When we embrace who we are and decide to be authentic, instead of who we think others want us to be, we open ourselves up to real relationships, real happiness, and real success.

There is no need to put on a mask.  There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not.  You have nothing to prove to anyone else, because…

1.  The people worth impressing just want you to be yourself.

In the long run, it’s better to be loathed for who you are than loved for who you are not.  In fact, the only relationships that work well in the long run are the ones that make you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself, and without preventing you from outgrowing the person you used to be.

Ignore the comparisons and expectations knocking at your door.  The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.  Prove yourself to yourself, not others.  The RIGHT people for you will love you for doing so, and they will appreciate all the things about you that the WRONG people are intimidated by.  Bottom line: Don’t change so people will like you; be patient, keep being your amazing self, and pretty soon the RIGHT people will love the REAL you.

2.  No one else really knows what’s best for YOU.

Don’t lose yourself in your search for acceptance by others.  Walk your path confidently and don’t expect anyone else to understand your journey, especially if they have not been exactly where you are going.  You have to take the steps that are right for you; no one else walks in your shoes.

Let others take you as you are, or not at all.  Speak your truth even if your voice shakes.  By being true to yourself, you put something breathtaking into the world that was not there before.  You are stunning when your passion and strength shines through as you follow your own path – when you aren’t distracted by the opinions of others.  You are powerful when you let your mistakes educate you, and your confidence builds from firsthand experiences – when you know you can fall down, pick yourself up, and move forward without asking for anyone else’s permission.  

3.  YOU are the only person who can change YOUR life.

In every situation you have ever been in, positive or negative, the one common thread is you.  It is your responsibility, and yours alone, to recognize that regardless of what has happened up to this point in your life, you are capable of making choices to change your situation, or to change the way you think about it.  Don’t let the opinions of others interfere with this prevailing reality.

What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you.  What you’re capable of achieving depends entirely on what you choose to do with your time and energy.  So stop worrying about what everyone else thinks.  Just keep living your truth.  The only people that will fault you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.

4.  Society’s materialistic measurement of worth is worthless.

When you find yourself trapped between what moves you and what society tells you is right for you, always travel the route that makes you feel alive – unless you want everyone to be happy, except you.  No matter where life takes you, big cities or small towns, you will inevitably come across others who think they know what’s best for you – people who think they’re better than you – people who think happiness, success and beauty mean the same things to everyone.

They’ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are.  But you know better than that – material things don’t matter.  Don’t chase the money.  Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive.  Go for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy.  What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth.  If you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them.  Never sell yourself short.  

5.  Life isn’t a race; you have nothing to prove.

Everyone wants to get to the top of the mountain first and shout, “Look at me!  Look at me!”  But the truth is, all your happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing, not while you’re sitting at the top.  Enjoy the journey by paying attention to each step.  Don’t rush through your life and miss it.  Forget where everyone else is in relation to you.  This isn’t a race.  You get there a little at a time, not all at once.

Let go of the foolish need to prove yourself to everyone else, and you’ll free yourself to accomplish what matters most to you.  Sometimes you have to remind yourself that you don’t have to always be and do what everyone else is being and doing.

6.  The path to all great things passes through failure.

You are an ever-changing work in progress.  You don’t have to always be right, you just have to not be too worried about being wrong.  Screwing up is part of the process.  Looking like a fool sometimes is the only way forward.  If you try too hard to impress everyone else with your “perfection,” you will stunt your growth.  You will spend all your time looking a certain way, instead of living a certain way.

It’s impossible to live without failing sometimes, unless you live so cautiously that you aren’t really living at all – you’re merely existing.  If you’re too afraid of failing in front of others, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful in your own eyes.  You have to remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fail or how messy your journey is, so long as you do not stop taking small steps forward.  In the end, those who don’t care that failure is inevitable are the ones that reach their dreams.  YOU can be one of them. 

7.  It’s impossible to please everyone anyway.

Some people will always tell you what you did wrong, and then hesitate to compliment you for what you did right.  Don’t be one of them, and don’t put up with them.

When you run into someone who discredits you, disrespects you and treats you poorly for no apparent reason at all, don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval.  And be sure not to leave any space in your heart to hate them.  Simply walk away and let karma deal with the things they say and do, because any bit of time you spend on these people will be wasted, and any bit of hate and aggravation in your heart will only hurt you in the end.

Afterthoughts

You don’t need a standing ovation or a bestseller or a promotion or a million bucks.  You are enough right now.  You have nothing to prove.  Care less about who you are to others and more about who you are to yourself.  You will have less heartaches and disappointments the minute you stop seeking from others the validation only YOU can give yourself.

The floor is yours…

THE ALPHABETS OF SUCCESS.

I love quotes and i m a lover of literature. .today i decided to use the alphabets a to z to define success. Here's my take on the idea:

A is for Ambition, the motivation to persevere.
"Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved."
- Helen Keller

B is for Boldness, the courage to take risks.
"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it."
- W. H. Murray

C is for Confidence, in yourself and in your future.
"Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy."
- Norman Vincent Peale

D is for Desire, to become who you truly want to be.
"A creative man is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others."
- Ayn Rand

E is for Enthusiasm, the charisma that inspires others.
"Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm."
- Winston Churchill

F is for Focus, which keeps you on the right path.
"Don't dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next."
- Denis Waitley

G is for Gratitude, to appreciate your life.
"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more."
- Melody Beattie

H is for Hope, the antidote to fear and worry.
"Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness."
- Desmond Tutu

I is for Innovation, why you stand out from the crowd.
"Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower."
- Steve Jobs

J is for Journey, moving forward despite setbacks.
"No one's journey is easy. It's how they handle it that makes people unique."
- Kevin Conroy

K is for Kindness, which builds strong relationships.
"Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness."
- Lao Tzu

L is for Love, the deepest source of all success.
"Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden."
- Oscar Wilde

M is for Mortality, a reminder to live life fully.
"An awareness of one's mortality can lead you to wake up and live an authentic, meaningful life."
- Bernie Siegel

N is for Nurturing, which turns ideas into opportunities.
"Management is about arranging and telling. Leadership is about nurturing and enhancing."
- Tom Peters

O is for Optimism, which keeps you focused on what's important.
"Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power."
- William James

P is for Peace of Mind, which keeps you steady during storms of life.
"Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to feel delight."
- Hannah Arendt

Q is for Quality, your personal commitment to excellence.
"Some people aren't used to an environment where excellence is expected."
- Steve Jobs

R is for Resilience, the perseverance that nothing can shake.
"When we tackle obstacles, we find hidden reserves of courage and resilience."
- A. P. J. Abdul Kalam

S is for Selflessness, to see the world the way others see it.
"Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life's deepest joy."
- Tony Robbins

T is for Tenacity, to persist when others would have given up.
"Patience and tenacity are worth more than twice their weight of cleverness."
- Thomas Huxley

U is for Uniqueness, why you stand out from the crowd.
"Trusting your individual uniqueness challenges you to lay yourself open."
- James Broughton

V is for Victory, the inevitable result of your commitment.
"Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory."
- George S. Patton

W is for Wellness, from exercising regularly, eating right and sleeping well.
"Wellness is the compete integration of body, mind, and spirit."
- Greg Anderson

X is for eXcellence, which you seek in all areas of your life.
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."
- Aristotle

Y is for Youthfulness, a state of mind that lasts an entire lifetime.
"There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life."
- Sophia Loren

Z is for Zest, which means loving your life and living it well.
"True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new."
 
Have a wonderful day.