BEFORE YOU GIVE UP.

Sometimes we feel like we have nothing left to give, and no matter how hard we try, we keep hitting road blocks that seem to hold us back.

The matter of fact is, if we can overcome the obstacles presented to us and keep pushing through the bad times, we will find the success within ourselves to create something worthwhile.

It isn't always easy trying to reach the top, but when you're thinking about giving up, remember these five things:

1. There's Always Someone Working Harder Than You Are.

Even if you think you've done all you can, you're wrong. Everyone has a dream, goal and motivation. It just depends how far you're willing to go to get what you want.

Success comes from being unique and standing out among the crowd. If you settle for good enough, that's all you will be and someone will surpass you.

2. We are all human. Realizing that it’s okay to make a mistake is only part of the battle to that ultimate goal. Learning and moving forward comes from doing something wrong and being told how to do it right.

Riding a bike without training wheels isn't an easy feat, but once we learned the rhythm and how to be in control, it became a skill we wouldn’t forget. If we throw in the towel after the first mishap or the first time we hear people criticize how we handle ourselves, we are letting go of what could have been.

3. Success Isn't Rewarding If It's Easy.

Reaching that ultimate goal should be a special moment. If it wasn't the hardest thing of our lives, then we didn't achieve it. Knowing that we did everything we could for ourselves and others to earn that goal should be more rewarding than the actual honor itself.

Behind every successful person, there is a story and a long-fought journey for him or her to get to where he or she is today.

4. Prove Others Wrong.

When someone says you can't do something, show that you can. Read more, write more, know more and work harder than the person next to you.

If he or she runs two miles, run three. If he or she spends four hours working on a project, spend eight. Actions speak a lot louder than words, so instead of complaining and sulking about others perceptions of us, make them choke on and spit up their words.

5. Rome Wasn't Built In A Day.

This is the most important saying to remember when giving up becomes a legitimate thought. Nobody can create an empire in a day; no business can become a multi-billion-dollar venture in one day, and no idea is worth throwing in the garbage if all the stops haven't been pulled out yet.

There is a lot to say about rewriting drafts in our lives, and sometimes they need to be revised and edited multiple times before the finished copy can be published and celebrated.

Have a nice day peeps.

HOW TO WIN HER HEART...

We know a woman is one mystery that a man fails to solve! However, for all you guys out there, i amgoing to make this task a bit easier.

There are various kinds of women (feminists, please do not stand up, we aren't belittling anyone here, i amjust helping the menfolk by decoding women a tad more in detail) So, read on to know what’s your kind of girl, how to woo her and keep her glued to you FOREVER! As for all you girls out there, don't forget to share this guide with your BFFs, it might help them to get the best out of their men

1. Short girl

Well, 'good things come in small packages' and you are going to feel the same in every moment you spend with her. However, there are certain dos and don'ts also. So, first and foremost the golden rule- do not give her nick names like, tiny, cutie, shorty, etc. No matter how cute you find her, do not just stick to this ‘cute’ word like a gum. Your girl would love to be your ‘sexy goddess’. So, it is important you make her feel sexy not just cute through  your words (and actions too!) .

Added perks of dating a short girl:

It feels incredible to hug and kiss a short girl. (Recall your last kiss! Her hands just above your hips while her forehead sitting just below your chin- well, it doesn’t get better than this!)

They always look young no matter what their age is.One of things that women find really romantic is when their men carry them in their arms. So, if you are dating a short girl, you would always be at ease with this aspect.

Word of caution: Don’t overdo that especially in public!Short girls easily straddle that line between cute and sexy, and they offer the best of both worlds.

Shy girl

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The mystery gets deeper when you are dealing with a shy girl. Well, do not mistake them to be boring ever. A shy girl is like an ocean full of awesomeness waiting to be explored. If you have fallen for a girl who is shy, well here are certain things you should (Read- MUST) do to make her fall head over heels for you!

Start with complementing her. Yes everybody likes compliments but your ‘royal coyness’ loves them! Look directly into her eyes and with all sincerity say ‘you are beautiful’. We bet you will end up captivating not just her heart but soul too.

Bonus tip:   Be a good listener. This will encourage your sweetheart to open up. She might just need that little push to get going but trust us, it is all worth it!

3. Romantic Bollywood buff

Congrats! Your life is going to be a big ‘masala’ flick! Melodrama, emotions, romance and action- an amalgamation of all these, and there she is- your ‘cinephile girl’!

If you are still on the 'wooing way', then one thing you must love is- movies! No ifs and buts in that! Brush up your knowledge about Bollywood films, and clean your ears to hear all the B-town news, she is going to share with you. 

Smart trick: Even, if you aren't too much into Bollywood, at least Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge,Dil To Pagal Hai and Kuch Kuch Hota Hai are a few films that you ‘must’ mug up! If you have some musical talent brewing inside you, this is the time to bring it on forefront! Mesmerise her with your vocal chords or guitar strokes. She will be all floored.

Small tip:   She isn't going to watch a Hollywood movie, in case the date clashes with a Bollywood movie. So, be an 'ideal boyfriend' and do not waste your time in convincing her. Book those tickets, grab a bucket of popcorn, hold her hand and enjoy this beautiful Bollywood journey with her.

4  A foodie!

Cook for her, and she’ll love you forever. We aren’t saying become a ‘Vikas Bhalla', or 'Sanjeev Kapoor', overnight, but yes seeing their partner cook is a major turn on for foodies. It is important to be patient with a foodie. She might spend an hour online reading through menus to find the perfect meal at the perfect place! So, be prepared!

What not to say on a date

Never say to your girl “Oh, so you’re a foodie?”,or oh you like food so much  even if you if you find her to be a picky eater. Even if you really want to bring this topic up, politely ask,, “Do you like to cook?” She shall happily divulge all the details.

Oh yes, one more thing, be prepared to gain some ‘love handles’, thanks to those awesome restaurant dates you will be going on with your better half.

Bonus perk: She isn't going to crib about spending time in the kitchen. So, you can relax, sit back and enjoy your football matches while eating those sumptuous meals cooked by your beloved.
Have a wonderful Sunday peeps..

THAT RELATIONSHIP WON'T LEAD TO MARRIAGE

Isn’t it almost everyone’s dream to have a wonderful relationship with their partner that would then move on to marriage? Many people desire this, but not every relationship would move on to marriage, even though you’ve been in the relationship for a very long time.

Many people have invested so much in their relationship; a lot of years, money, emotions and resources only for the relationship to fail or they get jilted.

We’ve shown you the signs that a relationship is heading the right way, but there are also signs that can reveal that the relationship wouldn’t lead to marriage and you just have to be careful enough to spot those signs.

1. POOR COMMITMENT

Don’t be deceived, poor commitment or a relationship without commitment would hardly ever lead to marriage. When commitment exists in a relationship, it shows that both partners love and care enough about each other and are dedicated to having a future together.

Commitment is a very positive sign that the relationship is heading the right way, but when one partner isn’t TOTALLY committed to the relationship, then it might die off. I placed emphasis on totally because, it’s mostly a totally committed partner that would want to take the relationship further; when one partner isn’t fully committed, this could be a bad sign.

2. THE RELATIONSHIP IS ONLY SEXUAL

A lot of people mistake the sexual passion and intimacy in a relationship as a sign of cohesiveness, but this isn’t true. Sex isn’t the only reason couples get married; you would hardly see a relationship that went on to marriage because the sex was great, no!

If you are in a relationship that’s purely sexual, then you need to watch it; such a relationship might fall short of leading to marriage.

3. THE FUTURE ISN’T A PRIORITY

Your priorities show where your heart truly lies; if the future is a priority for you, but isn’t really a priority for your partner, then it shows something isn’t right. When both partners place a priority on the future then the relationship is on the right track, otherwise, that relationship might not head to marriage.

4. YOU DON’T WORK FOR EACH OTHER

Committed partners who are interested in building a successful relationship that would then turn to marriage work for each other; they support each other, do their best to help each other out and they want the best for each other. When this is lacking in a relationship, when there is no desire from both partners to work for each other, then it could be a sign that the relationship might not head to marriage.

5. YOU CAN’T TOLERATE EACH OTHER

Tolerance shows a couple can live with each other successfully. When there is a lack of tolerance, unforgiving heart, hate, malice and grudges take over the relationship; how then can such a relationship head to marriage?

6. LACK OF TRUST

Trust is another important factor in relationships that would lead to marriage; when two partners trust each other, they live at peace with each other — this creates a sense of security and harmony. However, when trust is lacking, security would be lacking, doubt would take over, jealousy would exist and so many other things that would ruin the long-term future of the relationship.

7. NO EMOTIONS

Emotions are what show how the relationship is faring, and when they are bottled up, things might not move in the right direction. If you don’t show each other when you are happy, sad, when you feel betrayed, how much you love and care for each other, then it could be said that your relationship lacks passion, and even if such a relationship transcends to marriage, it might suffer.

8. OTHER ROMANTIC AFFAIRS        

When your partner can’t stick to you, but you still have hopes of getting married to such a partner, this might pose a problem. If your partner can’t stick to you then what’s the assurance that you are the one your partner truly wants? And if such a relationship moves on to marriage, things wouldn’t change as well.

9. LOSS OF INTEREST

Interest shows where your heart lies; it shows what you truly desire and what you yearn for. When you start having a decreased interest for your partner, or your partner starts having a reduced interest in you then that relationship might not head to marriage.

Many partners for some reasons tend to have a reduced affection for each other and care less for each other as time goes on.

 

When in a relationship, it’s important to notice what goes on in that relationship; many people have relationships that might not head to marriage and they don’t notice until it’s late.

When a relationship wouldn’t lead to marriage, there are signs it shows; it’s up to you to notice them.
Have a nice weekend.

WHEN LOVE HURTS.

Sometimes our loved ones hurt us. Dads can get physical or disappear from our lives. Moms can betray us with their anger and lack of support. A best friend can shock us by turning their backs on us. A spouse can be unfaithful and destroy our trust. Our children can take a destructive path that is sure to crush our heart. These are some of the big hurts in life that leave us wondering how we will ever heal.

But there are little hurts too that can build into mountains of resentment if we don't address them. Angry words are exchanged during an argument. A friend neglects your friendship. People take you for granted without even knowing it. Your child rejects you in a moment of hurt and frustration.

To hang on to hurt or anger is destructive to our emotional, spiritual, physical and relational health. It drains our energy, strains our relationships, and zaps the joy from our life. So how do we heal our heart when love hurts? Here are some suggestions to help you move beyond the hurt and get on with enjoying life.

Confront Your Anger: Our initial reaction when someone hurts or betrays us is often anger. Maybe we feel violated or disrespected. We want to perhaps lash back and make the other person hurt. Refrain from doing that. Anger expressed when we are hurt can be distorted and damaging to our relationships. Take some time to handle your anger in another way. Talk with a trusted friend, counselor or life coach. Express your feelings in a journal or write a letter to the person who hurt you (but don't give it to them).

Seek Truth and Understanding: How can you better understand the person who hurt you? What truth do you need to know about the other person? Sometimes people hurt us because they are hurting too. Other times people hurt us unintentionally. Ask for the truth and be willing to hear, accept and embrace it. Share your truth and help the other person understand you.

Search for the Lesson: Experiencing pain and suffering is not easy. However, there is usually a lesson to be learned from our pain. What aren't or weren't you paying attention to? What does this experience teach you about yourself and the other person? What changes need to be made as a result of your pain? While the human drama includes pain, we have a choice in how to view it.

Give Grace: We are all human, and we all make mistakes. Some mistakes are worse than others, and some mistakes hurt more than others. Most of us are doing the best we can in any given situation. People make choices based on their past, their belief systems, and the past and collective thought of humanity. Unfortunately, people sometimes make choices that hurt us. We need grace when we make choices that hurt our loved ones, and our loved ones need grace as well.

Accept the Love Deposits: When we are hurt, it is sometimes difficult to accept the apologies and attempts to make amends from our loved ones. Maybe your guard has been thrown up and you're unsure if you can trust again. One way to heal a wounded heart is to allow yourself to truly feel the sincere love deposits that are made to your emotional bank account. Maybe the love will come from the person who hurt you, but maybe it will not. Seek out and embrace the love that is being given to you.

Grieve the Sadness: With hurt comes sadness. Maybe you feel sad about what happened. Perhaps you feel sad about what you didn't receive. Sometimes the sadness is an indication that you need to grieve the loss of a dream. Allow yourself to feel the sadness - let the tears flow. Crying is a very cathartic ritual.

Set Appropriate Boundaries: When our loved ones hurt us continually, we may need to set boundaries for healing to take place. A child may need to go to his room when his anger is destructive. You may need to end a conversation with someone who is hurting you. It's even possible that you need to end a relationship that is repeatedly hurting your self-esteem. Healing cannot take place if we don't take care of ourselves. And people will not begin treating us with respect until we respect ourselves.

Forgive: Lastly, we need to forgive so that we can move on with life. Forgiving does not mean that we condone our loved ones behavior. It does not mean that we allow others to keep hurting us. To forgive means to give up all resentment and the desire to punish the other person. In our heart, it means we've cancelled the debt we feel others owe us.

Sometimes the only way to know love is to experience what love is not. Whatever the question, challenge or decision, love is always the answer. God is perfect love, and His desire is for us to model His character. Healing from hurts moves us closer to love.

WHAT IS LOVE?

Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we can not command, demand, or take away love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don't fully understand. Similarly, we can stage a seduction or mount a courtship, but the result is more likely to be infatuation, or two illusions dancing together, than love.

Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addenda, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires.

Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you prevent it, for any amount of money. Love cannot be imprisoned nor can it be legislated. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, nor even a marketable power source. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output.

One can buy sex partners and even marriagepartners. Marriage is a matter for the law, for rules and courts and property rights. In the past, the marriage price, or dowry, and in the present, alimony and the pre-nuptial agreement, make it clear that marriage is all about contracts. But as we all know, marriages, whether arranged or not, may have little enough to do with love.

Sexual stimulation and gratification, whether by way of fingers, mouths, objects, fantasy play, whips and chains, or just plain intercourse, can certainly be bought and sold, not to mention used to sell other things. Whether sex should be for sale is another question entirely, but love itself can not be sold.

One can buy loyalty, companionship, attention, perhaps even compassion, but love itself cannot be bought. An orgasm can be bought, but love cannot. It comes, or not, by grace, of its own will and in its own timing, subject to no human's planning.

Love cannot be turned on as a reward. It cannot be turned off as a punishment. Only something else pretending to be love can be used as a lure, as a hook, for bait and switch, imitated, insinuated, but the real deal can never be delivered if it doesn't spring freely from the heart.

This doesn't mean that love allows destructive and abusive behaviors to go unchecked. Love speaks out for justice and protests when harm is being done. Love points out the consequences of hurting oneself or others. Love allows room for anger, grief, or pain to be expressed and released. But love does not threaten to withhold itself if it doesn't get what it wants. Love does not say, directly or indirectly, "If you are a bad boy, Mommy won't love you any more." Love does not say, "Daddy's little girl doesn't do that." Love does not say, "If you want to be loved you must be nice, or do what I want, or never love anyone else, or promise you'll never leave me."

Love cares what becomes of you because love knows that we are all interconnected. Love is inherently compassionate and empathic. Love knows that the "other" is also oneself. This is the true nature of love and love itself can not be manipulated or restrained. Love honors the sovereignty of each soul. Love is its own law.

LIES WOMEN TELL

It’s definitely not just men that lie to women, as there are plenty of lies that women tell men too, even if we don’t often admit to it. Just like many of the lies that men tell us, most of the common lies that women tell men are told just to avoid conflict, but lying will always cause problems in a relationship. Here are some lies that women tell men but would be unlikely to admit to.

1. MONEY ISN’T IMPORTANT

Most women would rather marry for love than money, but one of the most common lies that women tell men is that money doesn’t matter at all. While we may not choose our partners based on their income, a real lack of money can make life difficult and miserable, especially if it stops us doing what we want in life – having a family, for example.

2. OF COURSE I LIKE YOUR FAMILY!

Many women genuinely like and get along with their in-laws, but those that don’t are unlikely to admit it. Telling someone that you don’t like their family (especially their parents) can be really offensive, so it’s unsurprising that many women choose to lie to their partners about it!

3. SURE, PUT THE FOOTBALL ON

Plenty of women do enjoy sports, which is great, but many women at the beginning of a relationship pretend that they don’t mind sitting through endless hours of sports when really they can’t stand it. It’s best to be honest 

4. I DON’T MIND COOKING AGAIN

Another lie told by many women at the#beginning of a relationship is that they don’t actually mind doing all of the cooking, washing up and picking up of dirty underwear and socks. The patience to lie about this usually wears off pretty quickly, and very soon the man finds himself having to scrape his own dirty socks off of the floor.

5. I WAS WRONG

Hands up if you’ve ever apologized for something, knowing that you weren’t actually in the wrong? Most women will have done this at some #time or another just to bring an argument to an end. No doubt most men will have done similar, because let’s face it, no one really enjoys fighting.

6. I’M NOT JEALOUS

Many women will pretend they’re not upset if they catch their man checking out another woman or flicking through a dirty magazine, but the reality is often quite different. We lie because we don’t want to seem uncool, clingy or generally jealous and insecure. Usually the outlet for this is doing the same in return and trying to make him feel jealous too!

7. THAT WAS INCREDIBLE

Near enough every woman has told a lie about their bedroom experience, be it ‘faking it,’ the old ‘size doesn’t matter’ or pretending not to be upset if a man suffers from a bit of erectile dysfunction. It’s also quite common for a woman to pretend that a man is the best (and/or the biggest) that she’s ever had.

8. I’M FINE

When he asks you what’s wrong, it feels natural to respond with, “I’m fine.” Of course, fine never actually means what the dictionary claims it means. Either you’re too tired to explain yourself, or you want him to figure it out himself. Why should you spell #everything out for him? After all, he should know why you’re angry.

9. I’M ALMOST READY

Whether you’re getting ready for a big party or a trip to the grocery store, you want to #look your best. It’s not your fault that it takes an hour to apply make-up, do your #hair, and find a perfect outfit. It’s stressful being a#woman. When he rushes you to get out of the bathroom, you might lie just to keep him quiet.

10 I WAS ONLY KIDDING

After you say something mean, you can try to avoid taking responsibility for it by pretending that you were joking. Even if you actually were kidding around, the comment is still hurtful. If you know that your #man doesn’t respond well to criticism, try to keep your jokes light.

Well, there you have it:  common lies that #women tell but often won’t admit to. Some of them are totally harmless, while others could be potentially damaging for a #relationship. Have you told many of these lies before, or are there some other ones that you are guilty of 

Who says love doesnt lie.....lol